billboo Posted March 5, 2008 Share Posted March 5, 2008 Hi there, Opinions Please - My mother has disowned me because I am moving out of her house that I was renting off her into my own purchased house. There is abit more that goes with this story but this is the basis for where all these troubles have arisen. I thought the house she brought was going to be an investment for me but it turns out i'm only renting so evening knowing this and with her permission my fiancee (builder) and myself have done alot of work on her property. Painting the exterior, Decking & Landscaping. Most of this has been free of charge except for materials we purchased. She said she'd pay for them but not til after Xmas. We have spent around $2000.00 in materials and supplied free about $1500 worth of wood and paint and plants that we already had not including our time weeknights and weekends for the past 6 months. I have already moved out but gave her plenty of notice so the final date is 20/3/08. This means I will owe her $1400.00 in rent. She has said alot of nasty hurtful things that have hurt and to be honest I don't know if I want to forgive her even when she does get over this anger. My question is should I pay to keep the peace and swallow the $2000.00 she owes that she said she would pay or do I do a breakdown on paper and send it to her informing her that I'm not going to pay the balance of the rent. Her anger has verged on pyscho and this may make her worse. I have briefly discussed outstanding money with my stepfather who himself can't understand why my mother has reacted this way. I don't want to hurt him or make him suffer but i don't see why I should pay especially when I know i'll never see this money. Confused - What would you do? - Opinions please Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 5, 2008 Share Posted March 5, 2008 Mom doesn't like your fiancee? Just a wild guess.... I'd call it even (she doesn't pay you and you don't pay her) and move on. I can't see anything good regarding keeping this going on. Hopefully you'll get some better advice Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted March 5, 2008 Share Posted March 5, 2008 I have a psycho mother too, who owes me more money than I care to think about. So there is an answer based on what I know you (and I) should do, and then there is what I have always done in the past. Logic and rationale thought dictate that you do not pay your mother the remaining $1,400 and that she still owes you $600. Forget about the labor and the free stuff. You can opt not to speak to her until she pays, or agrees to pay, or whatever - that depends on the particulars of your relationship. My reality is to keep the peace I always end up forgetting about the money. It has hurt me ALOT in the past, and I have spent HOURS with a therapist trying to overcome this failing on my part. So overall I would suggest you NOT BE ME!!! Do the right thing for you and your fiance. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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