Is there something I'm doing wrong?

[challenFL]

Hi, not sure if this is the right thread for this question but here goes.

 

I've been in two serious relationships in my life so far. I'm 21 right now and just about to finish college. The thing I don't quite understand is that both of my relationships have ended pretty badly. Both have basically ended up with my now ex-girlfreind talking to someone else or atleast attempting to.

 

My first relationship I had was in high school and it lasted nearly 3-4 years. We were practically married and while we were kind of taking a break she ended up sleeping with this guy, but we were still more than just "taking a break" at the time. We were constantly talking on the phone and what not, but basically she sleep with another guy. At first I tried to let that go, but eventually I couldn't deal with it and called it quits. She wanted to get back with me for almost a year after I broke it off, but I had to move on because she wouldn't allow us to be friends.

 

My second relationship which just ended seemed to be perfect at the beginning. She was coming after me and I was almost not willing to take the chance since I was comfortable after having got over the first relationship. I gave in, mainly because she kept pushing me to give her a chance and she was adorable. I had to do an internship over the summer and we drifted apart from there. When I came back we got back together and things were great, I was even considering changing my career plans to be with her (because I signed an offer-letter with a bank to work in Florida and then we got together soon after that). She ended up not wanting a boyfreind for some 3-4 months now, but she constantly kept me around and wanted me to do little chores for her. Basically acting like her boyfreind, but not being her boyfreind. But then I see pictures of her and another guy, she explained that she didn't want anybody but she still had pictures of her and another guy on her facebook. She even tried to make a damn contest out of it saying she didn't know who to pick. Now I'm at the point where I told her I'm done with it and I'm not even going to deal with her anymore.

 

Sorry about the length of this message, but do you think maybe I'm at fault for my ex-girlfreinds basically leaving me for another guy. I don't mean to sound like a whimp, but it seems like both of my relationships have ended in the same way. So it leads me to question whether or not I'm at fault. I've been told I'm the "marrying type" and so maybe I'm just ahead of my time being at the age of 21. I just wonder if I'm unlucky or if I'm doing something to cause this result. It's not a good thing when you're not on speaking terms with your ex-girlfreinds.

[shanny]

I really don't think you are doing anything wrong. Girls at that age have a hard time settling down sometimes, especially if they are attractive and get a lot of other attention. Attention feels really good, but it's a matter of what they do with it. That could be the case or... you're not talking about 15 girls here... you are talking about 2. It could just be you've been unlucky and have had two bad experiences. The next one could be awesome. You sound like a great guy and should have no problem in time finding a girl who will appreciate you.