silentscope Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Hello there, here goes my first post here and Im hoping that I can find out the answer to the title. I meant to post this last week, but didn't notice my activation email in my trash folder. I am pretty positive that a thread like this has been posted before, but it revolves around the TP, and I don't wanna invade one of their topics with mine. Here is some quick info on my and a tad on her: I have worked at Target in the electronics area (Games, CDs, Movies, TVs, Ipods, etc.) since late 2006. She has been there since 2002 and works mainly in the houseware and apparel (not on same shifts though). Im single and have been ever since.....birth , while she has been married before but has been divorced. Age for me is 25 and her going on 44 in a month and some change, me no kids and her with a 15 year old son. We have been talking with one another since I started there, but got more talkative last year. Since I have yet to ever be in a relationship (or date) I never really got to understand or tell if a gal is interested or not. Here are a few things within the past few months or so: Sometimes not always, when "busting her chops" she would laugh and do one of those sissy kind of hits.She is able to keep good eye contact (which I have a real problem with but am able to keep decent e.c. with her) when talking with one another.Wasn't really able to tell, but during one of our store meetings (what we do before our shifts start) I was talking with a friend, but in the corner of my eye (when not looking at friend) I could of sworn she was looking towards direction. But when turning to talk to guy she would turn her attention back to the managers.One of the times she was in my area I was showing her some things (some magazine a customer left) and she got up real close. Basically she was close enough that her area's were pressed up against my arm and such.Laughs at the dumbest jokes, which makes me ask/joke with her asking her if shes drunk or something to be laughing at that, and she laughs and adds her own comment.She doesn't mind contact (atleast said anything), simple things like hand contact when passing items or trying to get something to work right. I dont really like touching people at all, but didn't notice until after that when walking with her i had my hand on her back (shoulder blade height kinda).Another time last week I was talking to one of our managers about somethings and she walked into my area to do something (usually I talk with her when she comes in), but while talking with the her (manager) it looked like she was watching us or waiting...was kinda focused on what I needed for my department and didn't pay much attention.Im sure there are more but Im trying to remember from the past few months and it gets a tad hard and such. Its been almost a week since I got to last chat with her cause of shift time difference's. Basically Im wondering if those things are things that shows she is interested or am I just reading to much into them. If I remember more I can post more. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Yeah, I'd say it's positive. Pay attention to how she interacts with other men. Is she just as touchy-feely? Is she friendly with everyone? If you feel that the way she reacts to you is different than the way she interacts with other guys- that's a good clue. I never touch someone I am not into.... but people are different. Hey, you are 25 and she is 44? Nothing wrong with that. ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 6, 2008 Author Share Posted March 6, 2008 what do you think the best approach would be to find out or ask her out then? Yes I am very clueless. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Oh, god, I wish I were 25 again Find out some of her interests and, well, get interested See where it goes. A date or "asking her out" doesn't have to be some formal thing. Just go with the flow... trust me, she knows what to do Link to post Share on other sites
shanny Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 It sounds very positive. If you are not comfortable taking the plunge, go there gradually. Start touching her a little more... try to get into deeper conversations or start to ask more questions about her personally to show that you have an interest in her. It's possible with the age difference that she doesn't think she has a chance with you since she could be your mother. Well lucky for her that doesn't botter you. My guess is that she's flirting out of interest but has no idea it's being reciprocated. You could either just ask her out or build up to it. My guess with your lack of experience in this field is that you'll be more comfortable building up. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Yeah, I'd say it's positive. Pay attention to how she interacts with other men. Is she just as touchy-feely? Is she friendly with everyone? If you feel that the way she reacts to you is different than the way she interacts with other guys- that's a good clue. I never touch someone I am not into.... but people are different. Hey, you are 25 and she is 44? Nothing wrong with that. ;-) She smiles and laughs with others, but she doenst stand near anyone all to close from what I have seen, and same goes for touching and such. Oh, god, I wish I were 25 again Find out some of her interests and, well, get interested See where it goes. A date or "asking her out" doesn't have to be some formal thing. Just go with the flow... trust me, she knows what to do I know some of the interests, and Ive tried liking them (or did) before meeting her, and I didn't like them. But then I tried out one again after 10+ years and it wasnt as horrid as I remember (sport she likes to watch). It sounds very positive. If you are not comfortable taking the plunge, go there gradually. Start touching her a little more... try to get into deeper conversations or start to ask more questions about her personally to show that you have an interest in her. It's possible with the age difference that she doesn't think she has a chance with you since she could be your mother. Well lucky for her that doesn't botter you. My guess is that she's flirting out of interest but has no idea it's being reciprocated. You could either just ask her out or build up to it. My guess with your lack of experience in this field is that you'll be more comfortable building up. Good luck! Touching her a little more....sounds wrong but I get what your saying (testing her comfort level or soemthing I think). I know some things about her, and her kid, but dont wanna get to into it as to seem nosey. I'm guessing one of the reasons the age doesn't bother me is cause my mom and dad had a decent sized gap between them as well. Well comments have been pretty positive so hopefully you guys are all correct Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Why not simply say to her the next time you exchange some playful banter... Wow, you're so much fun, we should go out for a drink after work sometime. It's simple- it's direct....but it's not pouring your heart out. You are taking the approach that she is fun to be with- and believe me, we as women like to hear that! Give it a shot. The worst thing you can do is wait.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Why not simply say to her the next time you exchange some playful banter... Wow, you're so much fun, we should go out for a drink after work sometime. It's simple- it's direct....but it's not pouring your heart out. You are taking the approach that she is fun to be with- and believe me, we as women like to hear that! Give it a shot. The worst thing you can do is wait.... Lol sounds good and all but I dont drink and she knows that, so if I tried that it would be , coffee?? I dont drink that either . I think I have time to figure something to approach (or if I hear anything good from yall), cause I dont think Ill see her until next week or so, due to schedual differences. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Thought I posted this before but thanks guys for the comments. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Okay, lol. Grab a bite to eat? See a movie? go skateboarding? There are lots of things you can ask her to do. Are you still concerned as to whether or not she reciprocates your feelings? Is this what is stopping you from asking her out? I dunno~ from everything you have said- she seems interested. So does it come down to mustering up the courage to ask her to do something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Okay, lol. Grab a bite to eat? See a movie? go skateboarding? There are lots of things you can ask her to do. Grab a bite....what if the animal has rabies? see a movie...possiable skateboard....last time I tried it I ended up face first on the pavement. Are you still concerned as to whether or not she reciprocates your feelings? Is this what is stopping you from asking her out? I dunno~ from everything you have said- she seems interested. So does it come down to mustering up the courage to ask her to do something? Yeah that is my main concern. If she does then thats great, but if not then it could be a little ackward for awhile. There was only one time last year that I was right at the point to asking her out. Grabbed her to the side with no one around, and right before I got it out a customer popped out of no where asking for help and taking her away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 8, 2008 Author Share Posted March 8, 2008 Hate that post's can't be edited but here is something else I remembered from some time ago. I had just come out from the back of the store which was near where she was working, and I saw her setting up a few things. She had looked slacking some, not standing up completly straight, legs spread out like upside down V, and had a not to happy look on her face. When I got close enough as to where she noticed me, she stood up straight, brought in her legs some hiked up her pants a bit and seemed to be in a good mood and such.When me her and one of the managers were walking away from our meeting, she said that she needed a walkie-talkie. For some reason or another the only thing I could think of to say was: "Why, its not like your gonna be doing alot of walking........or talking." As soon as I said it I was all doh in my mind. But she laughed, had a big smile and said that it was a nice cute little joke.There are a few times when Im talking with a customer or have my attention on something that im doing, she will walk up to me, sometime from behind which is why I dont notice her right away, and she either stands back and waits, or says something to get my attention. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Jeez... If your place of employment has no restrictions on employees dating, get it over with. I'm a prude and I would've been all over this Link to post Share on other sites
City_girl Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Sounds as though she may feel very comfortable with you and less boundaried than with men her own age, she may not even be aware that you are attracted to her. I am 42, if I were you I would tell her you think she's very pretty and ask her if she has a boyfriend. That way she will understand and you won't have to ask her out directly. As a previous poster said, she will know what to do if she's interested Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 Jeez... If your place of employment has no restrictions on employees dating, get it over with. I'm a prude and I would've been all over this Im pretty sure there is no restrictions at my job, since before there were some people messing around with one another and the managers never said a thing. Might be a problem if things were done infront of customers or the head guys (when ever they visit the store). I was all set to try and ask her out tonight, but I kept having other things come across my mind to talk to her about each time I saw her.....well most of the time. The other times I just and then came up with some random thing. I thought about asking her one friend that works there but decided against it for some reason or other. Should see her tomorrow so Ill try my luck again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silentscope Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 hmmm, just out of curiosity I checked a horoscope for tomorrow and here is what it said: You need to slow down just a little bit, especially when business is involved. It's not like anyone is trying to take advantage of you, but the fine print might get a wee bit out of control. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Put the horoscope away Stop thinking and just do. If you feel intimidated, just imagine her sitting on the joan taking a dump. That should do the trick Link to post Share on other sites
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