longlegzs80 Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 This is going to be a very simple thread. I am sick of being shy, and really want to overcome my shyness so it won;t effect everything such as relationships, career, meeting people etc. I also want to know how to get confidence in myself. This might be the thing that is turning guys away from me, is the lack of confidence, being shy and depressed attitude. I would greatly appreciate someone helping me out. I don't want to live like this the rest of my life having no life and being shy and not having really anything to look forward too because of my shyness, lack of confidence and my depressed attitude holding me back. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 If the "shyness" seems to be more than just shyness, you may have something different wrong. There is such a thing as social axiety disorder. Perhaps you should research this topic to find out more information. http://www.webmd.com See if your symptoms lead to any disorder. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 I think the only way to get over shyness is to fake it until you make it. I used to be really shy, and then I decided I didn't want to be that way anymore, so I convinced myself that I was not shy, and I forced myself to talk to people when I was out and about. For awhile it was really hard and took a lot of effort, but then slowly, it started to feel natural. Just take it slow. Talk to the person working the register at McDonald's or at the drugstore or at Starbucks. Talk to people in line about random things. (i.e. if someone is buying something you particularly like, say "Oh, that's my favorite color of nailpolish" or whatever. Anything.) You will likely never see these people again, so if you make a fool of yourself, who cares? It just takes practice. You have to do things that scare you or else you never make any progress in life. You can only gain confidence by believing in yourself and feeling that you are a great person who has a lot to offer. If you don't believe that right now, you fake it until you do believe it. Walk out of the house with your head held high, like you are the best looking, smartest, and coolest girl around. Tell yourself over and over again that you are that girl. And then one day, magically, you will realize that you *really* are that girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 Just a note: Be aware that there are disorders that CANNOT be overcome by just trying to overcome them mentally. Link to post Share on other sites
Jtizzle Posted July 8, 2003 Share Posted July 8, 2003 Personally i was shy last year,but then i realized i had a talent. and the talent was poetry/rapping...i started off in front of a few folks and nearly died cuz i thought they would judge me..but then those few folks turned into like 200 and so on.. i think if u found something that your good at, and people shared the same interest with you, then you would and will forget that your shy. im not saying it will go away overnite... but that could help you in the healing process... do you have a main reason of why you are shy? that could be the answer to your whole shy prob...i was that way cuz i thought i was ugly cuz i had acne and was a little overweight,but then i looked in the mirror and realized that it wasnt my acne that made my face ugly,but it was my low self-esteem which made me shy,cuz i didnt want to attract attention to myself to have folks look at me.. seriously...start WITHIN YOURSELF for the solution to shyness and u should be over it soon...but on other hand if its deeper then a SELF issue...then you might have a disorder, like bill said. and you should consult a doctor or so.. Link to post Share on other sites
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