idontknow Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 Help! I am really crazy and in love with this girl whos a year older than me. We were in the same lunch and math class this past year and she just graduated. We have talked to each other a few times during the year but i have been too shy to really get to know her or even to show my interest in her. We both seemed more willing to talk our own friends in front of each other, each wanting the other person to initiate something between us. I am pretty sure that she at least had some kind of crush on me last year and might even be crazy about me too, but i dont know. I've noticed that she used to stare at me a lot and for long periods of time when she thought i was busy focusing on something else. She also seemed to get noticeably tensioned and aloof when she knew she was going to see me. Sometimes when she wasnt expecting to see me she would become really nervous. But starting about 2/3 of the way thru the schoolyear, i think she started trying to forget about me and resumed dating other guys. She also began trying to avoid even seeing me at a distance. But still, whenever we unexpectedly saw each other i could tell she still had feelings for me. Now over a month past the end of the schoolyear, i am agonizing over whether to call her. I've realized that we were almost surely never going to see each other again and that i would have given up without even trying. I deeply regret that i didnt even let on that i was interested in her after about a third of the way into the year. Now, I dont know whether she has really gotten over me or still has feelings for me. We seem really really similar and i really feel that if i could get one chance to start a relationship with her, we'd be together a long, long, long time. I got her number off the internet and dont want her to think im crazy or stalking her because its been over a month since the end of the year. Please, please help me.......... Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 Call her. For God's sakes, you have nothing to lose. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you are in the exact same position as you are now except you know where you stand. Get some courage, man! Call her and ask her out. (And report back and let us know how it works.) Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 Just call her and talk to her. She already knows you. It is not like you are a stranger. If she did have a crush on you, she will be thrilled! Link to post Share on other sites
zman Posted July 6, 2003 Share Posted July 6, 2003 First of all, you're not in love with her - you have a crush on her. If you've never really talked to her or gone out with her it's not love, its a crush. Second, why didn't you talk to her or ask her out during the school year? What held you back? I would definately call her now and I think you still have a chance, but you have to play it cool and play your cards right. Just say you wish you would have gotten a chance to get to know her during the year, but you still would like to talk to her over a cup of coffee or something. See how it goes. But don't be all gushy and tell her that you've had a crush on her all year and didn't do anything about it. Good luck and report back on how it goes! Link to post Share on other sites
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