Totally Confused Posted February 24, 2000 Share Posted February 24, 2000 Ok, here's some advice...you are not ready for marriage. So why worry? You're still exploring your youth. Why are you trying to prevent yourself from dating other guys? I know you love and care about your boyfriend, but you are not ready for a serious committed relationship - and there is nothing wrong with that. Why put boundaries - that are making you miserable and confused - on yourself. Now what you have to do is just be honest with your boyfriend. It's much better than lying to him or yourself. There's no problem with being attracted to other people. Even married couples find other people attractive, but they don't (or shouldn't rather) act upon it, because they've made a vow that they were (hopefully) ready for. They got the dating other people thing out of their system, which is really what you should be doing. You want to and think constantly about acting upon it, which shows you don't want to settle down yet, so stop forcing yourself to, because all you'll end up doing is resenting your boyfriend. You also want to make sure that the person you end up with for the rest of your life, is the right one, and the only way you'll know that is by shopping around. But like I said, just be honest with your boyfriend so that you're not betraying him. If you tell him you want to see other people, he'll be hurt, but one day he'll forgive and understand and who knows, when you're ready and if it's meant to be, you'll get back together. If you cheat on him behind his back, he'll be hurt, and the chances of him forgiving you or respecting you ever again will be slim to none. Anyway, I hope you make the right choices for yourself and I hope everything works out in the end. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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