what do i do

[sadlone]

hi i am new and this is my story.

i came to england to go to school. i have no family here but my husband of 4yrs. i quit school and worked double to help him go to school. now even though he is still in school he makes a lot more money. we have children now so i work very little. all of a sudden i am his worst enemy and he is ready to leave. he claims he is only staying till i can go back to school a year from now. he constantly cheats and disrespects me. when i complain he storms out of the house. if i hang on to him he pushes me down and tramples over me. i have been told to leave him alone till i am able to go on my own a year from now but it is had to watch someone you love slip away or treat you so bad. his family does not believe in marriage so he encourage him to leave. i have no family here, and he gets mad when i talk to my few friends about what i am going thru. my heart aches so bad and all i can think about is to end it all. i tell myself i have nothig to lose but i know i do and he does too. i am at my wits end. how do i make him stop the pain before i snap.

[General Jack]

hi i am new and this is my story.

i came to england to go to school. i have no family here but my husband of 4yrs. i quit school and worked double to help him go to school. now even though he is still in school he makes a lot more money. we have children now so i work very little. all of a sudden i am his worst enemy and he is ready to leave. he claims he is only staying till i can go back to school a year from now. he constantly cheats and disrespects me. when i complain he storms out of the house. if i hang on to him he pushes me down and tramples over me. i have been told to leave him alone till i am able to go on my own a year from now but it is had to watch someone you love slip away or treat you so bad. his family does not believe in marriage so he encourage him to leave. i have no family here, and he gets mad when i talk to my few friends about what i am going thru. my heart aches so bad and all i can think about is to end it all. i tell myself i have nothig to lose but i know i do and he does too. i am at my wits end. how do i make him stop the pain before i snap.

 

Sorry to hear of your situation. Other than pain of seeing something deteriorate that was once better, is there really any reason for you to cling to this marriage? By the way you describe it, being with this guy sounds like punishment.

 

I don't know if you can make him stop the pain... I think you are going to have to remove yourself from the pain, whether that means physically leaving or emotionally writing him off.

 

You need to do something to pick yourself up. Don't let him prevent you from being with friends, friends and people who care about you are who you need to surround yourself with.