deki Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Two years after my husbands (15 years together, 2 kids) affair I meet someone else that I really like. I am still married, but have no feelings what so ever for my husband, as far as I am concerned he can go and be with whomever he wants I am at the point where I DON”T CARE at all. He on the other hand changed a lot, he constantly repeats how much he loves me and that he is afraid that I will leave him and all that ….The thing is I meet someone that I really like, that I think about constantly, and I don’t know what to do….nothing happened between us, he is in another country and we speak every day, that is all we have. I am so into him and all I want to do is go and be with him. What is going on with me, help. How should I approach this situation, all that is very new to me, never felt this way.[/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Very simple. Divorce your husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Author deki Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 I wish it was simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
Kasan Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Could it be possible that your anger and resentment at your husband's affair has made the man that you talk to everyday seem so attractive? What happened when you found out about your husband's affair? How was this resolved? Link to post Share on other sites
malaclypse Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I wish it was simple as that. Of course divorce is not simple or easy, but I am still married, but have no feelings what so ever for my husband, as far as I am concerned he can go and be with whomever he wants I am at the point where I DON”T CARE at all. Why do you want to you continue to waste time with him? You say yourself you have no feelings whatsoever for H. You even write 'still married'. So.... divorce him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author deki Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Could it be possible that your anger and resentment at your husband's affair has made the man that you talk to everyday seem so attractive? What happened when you found out about your husband's affair? How was this resolved? [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I don’t think so, he is nice man easy to talk to, I know him for 4-5 years, we never had anything, or talk about this kind of stuff un till now. Something happened that made us think about each other differently, I don’t know. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]After I found of my husband’s affair my whole world collapsed, I loved him very much and I would never think that he would do something like that behind my back….never. He also know very well my position in situations like that which I didn’t back up. I always used to say if he ever cheats on me that I am leaving….and here I am. I don’t know what to do, I just know that I can not breath, that I am loosing myself and …[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT][/sIZE] Link to post Share on other sites
Kasan Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 After I found of my husband’s affair my whole world collapsed, I loved him very much and I would never think that he would do something like that behind my back….never. He also know very well my position in situations like that which I didn’t back up. I always used to say if he ever cheats on me that I am leaving….and here I am. I don’t know what to do, I just know that I can not breath, that I am loosing myself and … Well, you can do two things--leave and divorce your husband as his affair is your proverbial line in the sand, and trust is a hard thing to get back. You don't want to work on it, you don't. You would be justified in doing this, a lot of marriages can't survive infidelity. The forums here do support this line of thought. Or you can leave no stone unturned in your quest to see if your marriage can be put back together. You do have a 15 year history with him. Some marriages can survive infidelity. The forms here do support this line of thought. But--IMO, don't leave your marriage because of your infatuation with the man who lives in another country. There is a right way to leave a marriage and a wrong way. How have the past two years been for the both of you? And I am wondering why you feel such urgency to make a decision right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author deki Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 [COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] Well we had our ups and downs for last two years, but it was never bad as it is now, and I am aware that whatever I can call that what I have with this other man is influencing me. That is the reason I am straggling so much with my decision, but then again I don’t have feelings for my husband for some time now, and I don’t want to be in marriage like that. I think about kids to, they love him so much and it would break my heart to hurt them in any way. [COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]. It is all BIG MESS [/FONT][/COLOR][/FONT][/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
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