What do you think?...i think he is cheating and i dont know .

[mel_bell]

Well, I'm new to this. So lets see if someone can help me out.

 

I just turned 25, and I am living with my boyfriend. I had been married for 3 yrs, and divorced back in 2006. For the past 2 1/2 years I have been on my own. I made a lot of guy friends, but nothing serious...just LITERALY friends.

 

Anyways, last yr in Nov I took my girl out for her bachlerette night...met a guy at the club, exchange numbers, and had a fun night. the next day we had our first date. It was great...he was different then most guys I have met...I know thats the common line a lot of us say when someone new comes into the pic. But for me it was...mind u i was married and divorced...bad divorce too.

 

Moving on...we started seeing each other and everything was going good. He had just moved down from up north and was staying with friends of the family...at this time he needed to move out because he in a sense had worn out his welcome (not in the bad way). At the same time I had to move out of my place by the end of the yr, since it was being foreclosed.

 

So we came to a crossroad, I told him he could stay with me till the end of the year. which in the meantime he was looking for a place of his own.

 

Now we faced a new problem, I was goin to be moving out of my place and in with my parents, but my parents did not accept me moving in with them if I was goin to stay in the relationship with him. so now I either give up a relationship with a man that I fell in love with and I see a future with and move in with my parents, or find a place and move in together.

 

we took that option. now everything seems to be goin well, we are both getting back on our feet financially and the relationship continues to grow.

 

then one day i get a feeling that something wasnt right. early january i found out that he had a page on a dating site, almost like myspace. we both had myspace accounts which never bothered us. Now i find out that he still has his profile on the dating website and continues to visit it almost daily. one day i find a receipt for a motel...those hourly ones...for the same day that he was suppose to be in a "meetin".

 

When I confront him on this, he replies sayin that it was a test to see how i would react, since his previous girlfriend accused him of cheating. I really didnt know what to think. so i gave him the benefit of the doubt.

 

Now he is on this thing that every weekend he has to have one night out with the "guys".

 

According to him we rushed into the whole living together situation and that being so close all the time he needs some room...which I understand. but at the same time I feel that its an excuse.

 

I did something that i am not proud of and that i would have never found myself doing. I started to check his phone and his email. and found that the day he claimed to be in a "meeting" he had been texting some girl to pick her up after work. could that have been a set up? dont know, but i decided that for the sake of the relationship not to say anything.

 

this past sunday i arranged a picnic date to sit and talk...we talked...i brought up the subject about cheating and flirting but did not say anything of what i found. just bringing up scenarios and he claims that he loves me and wants to get married and that he has never cheated. that i am the only one he wants and all the mumbo jumbo. but i know he has lied to me several times.

 

i told him that i wanted to him to delete that website that he has...he says no that he doesnt have to that i have to trust him.

 

this wk i decided i wanted to find out about his page that he still has, i finally got in and saw messages from him to other girls...i couldnt believe it...there were messages in reference to the last night he went out, and why didnt he call them and crap like that.

 

i dont know what to do...I love him, and I want the relationship to work...and according to him he does too, his family loves me too and wants us to get married, but I am soooooooooooooo scared.

 

Can anyone help me? Any advise?

[NuTuDating]

Ditch his ass fast. No guy "tests" his girlfriend by renting a one hour motel room. He's lying, ditch him.

[mel_bell]

he claims he bought the receipt...like pay for it...but not to use.

[NuTuDating]

That's WAY too convoluted. That doesn't even APPROACH making sense. No guy would buy a receipt to "test" his girlfriend. My verdict stands. If he can't be honest with you, ditch him. Let him know you're not buying his convoluted story about the hotel, period. Becuase guys just don't do that.