Kailove Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 For the past year, I have been involved in a relationship with my s/o. Over the past few months I have been feeling that something is not right. We would make plans to get together, but he was always a no-call no-show. He would go off and do his own thing without even calling, he did this several times, and when I expressed my displeasure regarding this, he never even apologized. I've also found missing condoms, he set up another MySpace page without telling me or adding me as a friend, and inappropriate text messages in his phone from other women. Yes, I snooped in his phone, and it's something I'm not proud of, but my stepping out radar is going off like crazy. How can I confront him about his cheating, and let him know I know about the other woman? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I;m not inclined to tell you HOW to do something I don't think you should do. Why bother confronting him? What's the point? Why not just dump him? I guess I'm assuming that you're only interested in a 1:1 r/s. If so, you will NOT be getting that with this individual. Your choice whether to deal with it or let it be. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 No need to apologize for the snooping, it's immediately justified that what's his is yours to sneak a peek at, and I'm sure he would've done the same in your place. If you caught your bf cheating, you can either go up to him scream at his face, or be really passive and tell him you know. But both ways will come out with one result, you dumping his sorry behind. Don't even think about it, there are no jusitifications for cheating. Relationships are built on trust, and once that's been broken you can't patch it up easily with a few apologetic words. Now you should be angry, but channel that anger positively in your favor when you see him next time. I'm sure he'll be in for a surprise. Now the other way you can go about it is to just leave him. No explanations required. Just delete his number from your phone and immediately get yourself away from him as far as possible. In this case you will not require any closure because you've already found out he's being unfaithful. If anything you can take what's most precious to him and dump it in a nearby river... or burn it. Either way, carry out one final revenge and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 In this case you will not require any closure because you've already found out he's being unfaithful. If anything you can take what's most precious to him and dump it in a nearby river... or burn it. Either way, carry out one final revenge and walk away. This advice is unintelligent and just lowers her to his level. Women are bigger than this, and doing something like this is just stupid. It also leaver her open to a legal pursuit. There is no point in revenge of this kind, however tempting... The best revenge is to leave him flat, and show him what an "Ace whole" he is. Do everything you've been advised to do, kailove - but not this. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Yup, living well is the best revenge and there are no regrets. This isn't easy. It takes the willingness to be alone. I wish you well Link to post Share on other sites
shanny Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 You have solid proof that he is cheating... You should confront him by dumping his cheating ass. Easier said than done if you love him, but nobody deserves to be cheated on. And don't feel bad for checking his phone. You had good reason. Link to post Share on other sites
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