littletoes Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 HI ladies and gents! my friends suggested this site for issues of the heart. I really need another opinion from a strangers point of view. MY bf of 2.5 years is acting little strange. He goes out with this co worker of his which is a male hopefully. Whenever I call him and hes out with him he never answers his phone and thats a red flag right there right. Now lets get to good stuff. He goes away for a business trip with this dude from work and he gives me reason to believe of his cheating heart because when ever I call he never answers, He said he would call during the week he called onence and the rest of the days he kepted giving me cell excuses. I believe him. Now let me say what if u see a hair on him and then u dont say anything them he makes a suggestion and turns around and says that its mine while that hair was light and my HAIR IS DARK IN COLOR. hE THEN GIVES ME ATTITUDE AND ASKS WHAT mY ISSUE IS. i KNOW HIS MOMS HAIR IS LGHT HE SAID IT COULD BE HIS MOMS OR IS THIS THE GULITYNESS OF HIM TRYING TO LET ME KNOW THAT THERE IS ANOTHER WOMEN INVOLVED. iM REALLY CONFUSED. i LOVE THIS GUY AND i REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM. i lOVE HIM im JUST NOT SURE WHAT TO DO PLEASE HELP ******* pLEASE KEEP IN MIND THAT THE HAIR SITUATION WAS WHEN HE GOT BACK FROM HIS TRIP*************** pLEASE HELP lOVE st Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 So are you saying you think he is cheating with his male co-worker? Or you think he might be cheating with another woman just while he is out with this male co-worker? Alot of times, there are other "red flags" besides not answering a cell. And having a strange hair on them. Although it might sound strange doesn't always mean anything. Never accuse until you have solid proof. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littletoes Posted March 8, 2008 Author Share Posted March 8, 2008 Thanks for replying back. Well I think he may be with another women. While he says that hes out with this co worker. U are right I don't have solid proof. A friend of mine said that I should ask if if hes cheating on me. Or why would he give me attitude about the hair?????????? AM I being insecure because he never answers his phone when hes out with that guy Link to post Share on other sites
City_girl Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You have a right to ask him what's going on. I think somewhere deep down you already know the answer . Fairly often in matters of the heart women hear our intuition and then screen it out when it doesn't tell us what we want to hear. I hope he's not cheating but pin him down on the cell thing, don't go crazy alone with this. Make him answer your call,s as and when not call you.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author littletoes Posted March 8, 2008 Author Share Posted March 8, 2008 Thanks for your help. Deep down inside I think hes being fishy. I really hate confronting people IM just not sure to go about this confronation of the cell thing honestyly I feel stupid like what am I suppose to say. Sweetie I feel as if ure being unfaiithfull because u never answer ure phone while ure out with this guy I dont know please help Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Thanks for replying back. Well I think he may be with another women. While he says that hes out with this co worker. U are right I don't have solid proof. A friend of mine said that I should ask if if hes cheating on me. Or why would he give me attitude about the hair?????????? AM I being insecure because he never answers his phone when hes out with that guy Does he ever say where he at or going with this co-worker? Is it possible you could show up where ever he says he is? Link to post Share on other sites
shanny Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You don't have proof, BUT, you have a lot of evidence. I don't have any background on you... are you the jealous type? If you are it may cause you to overreact when nothing is going on. If you don't have any history of jealousy and you are feeling these things, you may be right. I hope for your sake that you're not... Are his answers as to why he doesn't answer his phone believable or are they obviously a bunch of crap? I know you love him and want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you should share some of his excuses with one of your friends (or post them on here) to get another opinion on whether or not they are vaild excuses. Good luck... I know first hand how hard it is when you suspect a cheater on your hands. It's absolutly gut wrenching but remember if he is cheating on you, he is not worth it. You may not realize that right away, but you will in the long run. Keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
City_girl Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 If he's cheating it will only get worse. I have a friend who's husband had 3 different lots of sexy or suspicious text messages on his phone from different women, asking to meet etc. He came home after being out all night and emotionally abuses and harasses her, she still won't leave? If you loose their respect it just keeps diminishing, I realized this this weekend Stand your corner and demand an explanation and to be able to call his cell whenever you need to. If he's. innocent and loves you he will reassure you, hell he will fight to reassure you. I know I would if I were falsely accused, wouldn't you? Link to post Share on other sites
Mom2my3Monkeys Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 SOunds very similar to what my husband was doing and acting and I never approached him til I had solid proof cause I didn't want to make an ass of myself, usually 99% of the time the gut feeling is right, but see if you can talk to him about your fears and things. Ask him why he never ever answers during those times, why is it only during those times he doesn't answer but others he does. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littletoes Posted March 9, 2008 Author Share Posted March 9, 2008 ou don't have proof, BUT, you have a lot of evidence. I don't have any background on you... are you the jealous type? If you are it may cause you to overreact when nothing is going on. If you don't have any history of jealousy and you are feeling these things, you may be right. I hope for your sake that you're not... Are his answers as to why he doesn't answer his phone believable or are they obviously a bunch of crap? I know you love him and want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you should share some of his excuses with one of your friends (or post them on here) to get another opinion on whether or not they are vaild excuses. Good luck... I know first hand how hard it is when you suspect a cheater on your hands. It's absolutly gut wrenching but remember if he is cheating on you, he is not worth it. You may not realize that right away, but you will in the long run. Keep us No I'm not the jealous type. His answers as per the phone goes something like this. I forgot my charger at home and all I have is the car charger so my charger is outside. SO why could'nt he call me from the hotel where he was staying. He brushed off that question. Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 HOw does he act when he is with you? Anything else odd or different from normal? If you ask him why he isn't answering when you call when he is out with his friend, make sure you do so in a non-accusatory way, or he will likely become defensive. Being defensive doesn't always mean someone has something to hide either. But if he feels comfortable with you and that you're not a threat to being suspicious of anything, then you might be able to tell better what is exactly going on or not going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littletoes Posted March 9, 2008 Author Share Posted March 9, 2008 I think I ma going to ask him in a really cute way. Like why dont u anser the phone when ure with ure friend. in a giggley way. Link to post Share on other sites
City_girl Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Whatever you do do not do that!! You have the right to call him up on his behaviour if you really want to know the truth? How is a giggley question going to get a real answer? You sure you aren't finding a way to deny it might be happening? Link to post Share on other sites
Author littletoes Posted March 9, 2008 Author Share Posted March 9, 2008 Thanks for the reply city girl. I will ask him why he never answers his phone while he s out with him in a real com and mature way other wise ure right he may not take me seriously in terms of our conversation that is critical and serious. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 Sorry to crack it to you, but this was one of the first signs of my H's infidelity. The sending to VM and those G*d damn NEXTEL's unanswered alerts!!! Then I started finding BLEACH BLOND hairs all over mine and his car. When my hair was dark!! I'm sorry for what I am going to say but Men are stupid!!! If I had to put so much energy into something, I will make sure that it is done right. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
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