I feel lonely and depressed. I've never been in a relationship before =(

[Rise Against]

Well, my subject pretty much gives the point out. I feel really lonely and depressed and I've never been in a relationship before with a girl . I'm about to finish high school and heading to university, but I feel my life is lacking that something to fulfill myself - a relationship with a girl. I have a lot of friends that are both girls and guys, but just never had a chance to date any girl before, nor dance, kiss, etc. Is anyone in this situation who can tell me more? Sometimes when I post here I feel less depressed

 

Thanks

[Mustang1984]

The vast majority of guys dont get a girlfirend in highschool. Highschool is a world of its own where only about 10% aka the "popular" people have relationships, party, sex etc.... Highschool just sucks in general and you will find that generally most hated it with the exception of the popular people or some girls who just had fun with their friends and didnt worry about relationships.

 

College is far different, becuase everyone is literally on the same level. Remember that goddess at highschool that only the football captain had a chance with. Well in college that all goes out the window and youll find that not only will there be plenty of interesting girls, but everybody is in the same leauge. You will find people wanting to talk and relate to you that you can tell would never have talked to you in highschool.

 

For most, college is where they meet their first love or even wife/husband. So, dont worry too much. Your totally normal and you have the social mecha of college ahead of you that will change everything.

[Rise Against]

ahh thanks for your post mustang . IT's kinda weird, I'm that popular guy too, hang out with friends, and pretty attractive looking also really funny. I dunno, it's just life I guess

[Mezzi]

Im sure you will probably find a girlfriend in college.

I didnt have a boyfriend before college either. No kiss or anything.

Dont worry about it, you will find a nice girlfriend soon.

[Rise Against]

thanks mezzi . I guess I've always wanted to try new things. Wonder how it's like to hold hand haha.

[Noos]

Far out Rise. You are way too young to date anyone. When I hear of teenagers having boyfriends or girlfriends - like at age 15 or whatever - I just think - ick - I know you're sexual and hormonal but you are too young to be sexualised just yet - you're a child.

 

At uni, you'll have an easier time finding people who are interested in the same stuff as you are and will be exposaed to a wider cross section of society. you should date a few people (not at once but as you go through university).

 

You have no reason to worry - seriously - you're way too young to be concerned about this.

[Green]

well you could easily get your chance to atleast dance and kiss a girl before HS is over. Just ask one of the girls in the lower grades to the senior prom. They will be so greatful to have a chance to go to the prom they will most likely say yes. Just keep asking till one says yes. Some girls want to go to prom so bad they would say yes to a frog if it asked them

[flosslight]

I did not get a boyfriend until I was 23 and out of college. Of course, it was not something I was seriously looking for so no big deal.

 

I have no idea if you are doing this, but just ask girls out. If they reject you, it hurts but it does not matter. I'm saying this now at 25 and it took me a long time to not worry as much about rejection. If you are asking girls out and have not found a girlfriend then maybe the girl for you is not around right now.

 

I would recommend just have fun and not worry about most things.