finding someone...

[RedneckRomeo]

I've posted quite a bit on here a while ago - and had very good signals that turned into nothing, met a girl with who I thought a relationship was developing only to have it blow up in my face, and now I'm back to searching for a girl to attempt a relationship with - but finding nothing. I'm tired of not having a girl to be close with and talk to and share life with, but when I meet someone who has that potential, it has always been hard for me to take any of the first steps towards something great and I end up missing out.

 

Right now I'm trying to meet people but I don't have much of an option of where to find them, as it is cold and wintry and there is not much to do around here this time of year for someone my age. I've basically settled into a routine where I work the whole week just waiting for the weekend, when I go out to a great local band that draws lots of people just so I can dance with some hot girls and all the while hope that I might dance with one who will see me as more than just a random dance partner in a crowded room.

 

I've met so far quite a few who are regulars to the scene (as am I now) and who are willing to dance with me at some point throughout the night. However, it is always very loud and I am not sure what I can do to move beyond the dancing to actually getting to know them as a person and possibly even asking them out. I've always been kinda shy when it comes to the ladies I like, but once I get to know someone, I usually have a lot to say and lots to ask them. Its just getting past the shyness before I know them and finding out their basic information and asking them out that I have the issues with.

 

I have a number who I've been dancing with and watching - some I dance with more than others, others I notice look at me a lot from across the room, and others I've had move subtly closer and closer until they were right in front and we end up dancing together... yet through all this - I am afraid to exchange words and find out more about these girls.

 

If someone could help me get over this fear or help me figure out what to do next to get closer with these lovely ladies - I would greatly appreciate it. I'm not a player - I really do want to find someone who I can share my love and my life with - just am having a difficult time moving to the next level.