antics at a bar

[Hoffle]

What's a neg? And I don't think any of these posts have any relevance to what happened at the bar, it's not really helpful information or advice is it?

[mikeraw]

I never ask girls if they have boyfriends.

 

Firstly, I don't care.

 

Secondly, she won't think that I'll judge her as a cheater if she does hook up with me or anyone else, and chances are she will hook up with someone because most women cheat and with the exception of our mothers, all are promiscuous.

 

Thirdly, it's kind of an awkwardly personal question and if she's sober enough, you're giving her an opportunity to lie and shoot you down right away.

[reservoirdog1]

and she more than likely assumed that you just wanted to get in her pants.

I'm willing to bet that almost every woman concludes that, when a guy she doesn't know strikes up a conversation with her, getting into her pants is at least part of his agenda. I think we need to accept that as a given.

 

So, the key, for future reference, is to strike up said conversation, but from the get-go, keep it "cocky and funny". Tease her and bust her balls a little, in a humourous but not hurtful way. Don't fawn over her, or tell her she's beautiful, or anything like that. Don't ask her if she has a boyfriend -- that's not your concern right now. Besides, if you're doing well, the fact that she may have a boyfriend will become irrelevant. Don't overstay your welcome. Make sure YOU end the conversation, and when you do, hand her your card and say "if you feel like chatting again sometime, give me a shout." If she never calls, big deal -- you've lost nothing (except a card). And if she does, it's because you've successfully piqued her curiosity, and you're in like Flynn.

[Storyrider]

You sound alarmingly like a good friend of mine. There's your neg for the day.

 

Are there more drunkards in pubs in Britain than in bars in the US? I don't see that many people staggering drunk. I remember frat bars that were like that in college or accidentally wandering into someplace sleazy where bar flies go, but that is the extent of flat out drunkenness that I've seen.

[Pyro]

I'm willing to bet that almost every woman concludes that, when a guy she doesn't know strikes up a conversation with her, getting into her pants is at least part of his agenda. I think we need to accept that as a given.

So, the key, for future reference, is to strike up said conversation, but from the get-go, keep it "cocky and funny". Tease her and bust her balls a little, in a humourous but not hurtful way. Don't fawn over her, or tell her she's beautiful, or anything like that. Don't ask her if she has a boyfriend -- that's not your concern right now. Besides, if you're doing well, the fact that she may have a boyfriend will become irrelevant. Don't overstay your welcome. Make sure YOU end the conversation, and when you do, hand her your card and say "if you feel like chatting again sometime, give me a shout." If she never calls, big deal -- you've lost nothing (except a card). And if she does, it's because you've successfully piqued her curiosity, and you're in like Flynn.

 

I agree with this, but the difference is that generally speaking, a drunk guy has only one agenda in mind when walking up to a female, but a guy that is not drunk has that as well as other agendas on mind.

[Taramere]

Are there more drunkards in pubs in Britain than in bars in the US? I don't see that many people staggering drunk. I remember frat bars that were like that in college or accidentally wandering into someplace sleazy where bar flies go, but that is the extent of flat out drunkenness that I've seen.

 

Drinking is the culture here. The main street in my hometown, on a Saturday night, is the worst in any city I've ever been in. A lot of people don't consider it a proper night out unless they've fought, screamed, yelled, whistled, cried and puked their way home.

[blind_otter]

Are there more drunkards in pubs in Britain than in bars in the US? I don't see that many people staggering drunk. I remember frat bars that were like that in college or accidentally wandering into someplace sleazy where bar flies go, but that is the extent of flat out drunkenness that I've seen.

 

Maybe this is because I live in a university town, but I see flagrantly drunk people all the time, if I drive around after about midnight in the downtown area where I live. The worst is when you see a drunk girl squatting and peeing in the street, facing oncoming traffic rather than at the very least turning her cooch toward the wall of an unsuspecting building.

[Storyrider]

Maybe this is because I live in a university town, but I see flagrantly drunk people all the time, if I drive around after about midnight in the downtown area where I live. The worst is when you see a drunk girl squatting and peeing in the street, facing oncoming traffic rather than at the very least turning her cooch toward the wall of an unsuspecting building.

There are a couple of universities here, but I'm out in the suburbs. When I go downtown or uptown I usually just see people who look like they've had maybe three drinks, enough to be happy and social.

 

However, there must be drunks around because I know there is a lot of drunk driving here. I have never lived in a place with so many walls and fences smashed in. Almost every time I drive I see a new fence disaster.