KidEternity Posted March 10, 2008 Share Posted March 10, 2008 (edited) I thought I'd post some positive thoughts to compare with all the negativity and try and offer some hope...(and no it is not an anti-woman rant) So after 1 year of being single I actually decided I was pretty happy being by myself which is a strange thing for me because out of my group of friends I was always the one with a girlfriend, but things changed and I've drifted away from most of those friends and I've been single for a whole year, and yes sometimes it kinda hurts not being able to talk to anyone and a whole bunch of other stuff, but right not I'm not bothered by it... Quite simply I always had confidence issues, always thought I was ugly, was really shy etc and after a dreadful breakup last year I turned really quiet and really shy, but after a while I started back up again, and in my situation right now the only place I can really meet women is in bars and clubs, and I'm at a bit of a disatvantage anyway because I have long hair which apparently most women hate! (Jealous he he) Anyway most times me meeting girls involves really drunk women coming up to me and groping me and other stuff, which I'm not into at all, so I'm just holding out until I go to University then if I meet someone great, if not no big deal. Just got to be optimistic and not really care about it...and don't change yourself to find a girlfriend please... Turns out I'm not ugly, and nobody is, and that I'm still kinda shy, but I'm not quiet, and I've been working and I'm not scared of social situation, talking to strangers, both male and female is no problem... I don't know what I'm trying to say really, mainly just I'm happy as I am I like being a bit of a dreamer (my ex said I was alot like Dawson from Dawsons Creek don't know whrther that is bad or good!), I like my own personal space, I like doing what I want and not having to run it by someone, I like going travelling and having noone at home to miss! I am a much more confident person over this past year and I've adjusted to single life which is cool btw and I've read all these things about guys being really depressed because they don't have a girlfriends, I just want to say when you do eventually find someone these years will make you stronger, and stop being depressed, and smile everyone knows it is hard but there are much worse things in life than not having a woman. I'm aware that this is a kinda stupid thing to post but I'm just saying if there is hope for a big geek like me, you guys will have no problems! You just have to be confident in yourself! Edited March 10, 2008 by KidEternity Link to post Share on other sites
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 There's different types of loneliness though isn't there? Sometimes I like being on my own in terms of cutting myself off from the world for a few hours, or a day. Some weekends I don't even go out because I am more than content with my own company. However there's times where I really want to go and do go out and spend the day outdoors with people, because I need and want some human interaction. It's the same with relationships, I don't need to be with someone, I am surviving perfectly well without a girlfriend, but I would be lying if I said, I didn't want one. There's somedays where I say "I'm glad I'm not with anyone" this usually happens after I see a couple having a domestic and then the next day I'll see a couple holding hands, smiling and laughing and I think to myself "I'd like that to happen to me". However I think more people would be happier if they had other goals and ambitions in life to getting on with and remember relationships aren't the world, but a segment of the world and nothing more. I do like your advice and have taken it on board. Link to post Share on other sites
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