ThatTexasChick Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Hello fellow LoveShackers, this is my first time posting a thread, but I have read many. Anyway, I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me, and I know who the woman is. They've spent time together, gone out to dinner, IMming, and emailing. I asked him if there was someone else, he told me no, and it hurts that he would lie to me like that. I have several ways of contacting here - should I contact her to find out what is going on? It won't be anything one would consider a hostile confrontation, I am not going to go off on her or be mean and rude to her, it will be very civil. Help me out please! Link to post Share on other sites
DogMetal Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Hello ThatTexasChick, this will be my second post. I haven't experienced what you are experiencing. I don't blame you for wanting to confront her, but why exactly do you want to? I would want to just to show her you know what is going on, but beyond that, I don't know what good it would do. Do you think it might be best to just leave everyone quietly? I wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I think it would be best to talk to your bf about it, and leave it at that. And leave him. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Talk to her. If you can do it calmly, it is the best shot you have. Try to find out what is happening and why. Keep us posted! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 You can try to talk to her, but if she wants to be with your boyfriend she will do and say whatever it takes to keep him, and will not likely be too truthful with you. Why would she want to help save your relationship when hers depends on it ending? Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Hello fellow LoveShackers, this is my first time posting a thread, but I have read many. Anyway, I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me, and I know who the woman is. They've spent time together, gone out to dinner, IMming, and emailing. I asked him if there was someone else, he told me no, and it hurts that he would lie to me like that. I have several ways of contacting here - should I contact her to find out what is going on? It won't be anything one would consider a hostile confrontation, I am not going to go off on her or be mean and rude to her, it will be very civil. Help me out please! No, don't talk to her. Just dump your boyfriend. Just tell him, "you cheated on me, now leave me the hell alone....she can have you, you are shiit to me now". Just leave him and don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Ok... this is the deal. (coming from a person that the OW called me to insult me and ask me wtf I was doing being with her MM> MY H!?!?!?!? Jesus, I should have known then). Anyway, this is the thing here... You wont know what kind of monster you are dealing with till you attack it. Should you call? Absolutely not! You are better than to stoop to that level (I Hope). But the conversation can go two ways: 1. She can be aslo a victim of lies and actually act like a lady, curse him out, wish you luck and apologize. Call it a day. (Hardly ever happens nowadays...) Or 2. She could be a "2 cent tramp" could care less about anyone's feelings but her own and tell you to "ask your man" or "WTF u doing calling me?!", "Your man is the one that wants me... blah, blah, blah" you know the drill... (I dont get what chicks with this mentality get out of this behavior? but the one that pulled it with me, uhm... actually got my H all for herself now!! Broke, Incarcerated and Homeless. Gotta love Karma. Better her than me!!!). Save yourself the dramz! Bottom line is that he cheated. Odds are that you are most likely going to bump into personality #2. and you are not going to feel any better by someone that does not have YOUR best interest at hand reassuring anything for you. Link to post Share on other sites
NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Dump him tonight. Best move you'll ever make. Cheaters don't stop cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 How long has he been your boyfriend and also (before you found out he was cheating) was he potiental husband material? If NO to the second part, I say dump him and let him go be with her as you don't want to end up marrying someone who's chosen to cheat on you once. That's not a nice way to start off...... Anyway, he outright lied to you when you asked him, so this isn't a one time thing either, it's on-going. How much do you like him? Love him? Is the relationship worth saving? How was your relationship before you found out? Ask yourself could you ever fully trust him again... Link to post Share on other sites
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