tonyeltiger Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Hey all, just realized that 2 days ago it became 1 month since I have spoken to my ex like two responsible adults do, and 2 weeks since our final e-mails. Still really want to see her and talk to her. She knows how I feel but doesn't seem to care, at least not at this point. As far as I can imagine she is happy with her new guy (honeymoon phases are always easy and fun). I still find myself hoping that she will wake up one day and realize she misses me and wants me back as her man. *sigh* But I'm also realistic lol! But at least I don't feel NEARLY as crappy as I did a few weeks ago. Feelings of hurt have been replaced with anger at the way she handled the entire situation. I just hope that her craziness and not telling people how she feels screws up her new relationship, because I know that she would never realize that many of our problems came from her thinking I was a mind reader, or just hiding things from me. I wonder if she will dump her new guy like me. Just say I don't love you anymore and then proceed to cut all contact and refuse to act like a mature person. Oh well, can't trash talk too much because I do know that I still love her. But if she is worth it, she'll be back. But only after this new guy goes sour (if he goes sour) and that could possibly be a very long time Well, that's pretty much my update. Not much to update really when no contact happens lol! I have been telling myself something lately though that has helped with the NC. I tell myself that I will call her on May 13th and ask if she wants to get together for coffee that weekend or something. Whether I actually do it or not isn't so important, but I have promised myself I won't call until then. By then I may not even want to call though lol. I would like to see her, but I know that I don't love her like a friend, and she was pretty clear that she wouldn't feel comfortable being around me until I don't love her like a gf anymore (pretty crazy thing to ask of someone "Please just stop loving me (paraphrase)" lol) Any suggestions on the birthday call? I know most will say NC on her birthday will send a strong signal, but I also don't want to seem like I no longer care at all. Sooooo confused. Send some love Link to post Share on other sites
Author tonyeltiger Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 sorry bump, title doesn't mention me having a question I suppose Link to post Share on other sites
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serendip Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Hey all, just realized that 2 days ago it became 1 month since I have spoken to my ex like two responsible adults do, and 2 weeks since our final e-mails. Still really want to see her and talk to her. She knows how I feel but doesn't seem to care, at least not at this point. As far as I can imagine she is happy with her new guy (honeymoon phases are always easy and fun). I still find myself hoping that she will wake up one day and realize she misses me and wants me back as her man. *sigh* But I'm also realistic lol! But at least I don't feel NEARLY as crappy as I did a few weeks ago. Feelings of hurt have been replaced with anger at the way she handled the entire situation. I just hope that her craziness and not telling people how she feels screws up her new relationship, because I know that she would never realize that many of our problems came from her thinking I was a mind reader, or just hiding things from me. I wonder if she will dump her new guy like me. Just say I don't love you anymore and then proceed to cut all contact and refuse to act like a mature person. Oh well, can't trash talk too much because I do know that I still love her. But if she is worth it, she'll be back. But only after this new guy goes sour (if he goes sour) and that could possibly be a very long time Well, that's pretty much my update. Not much to update really when no contact happens lol! I have been telling myself something lately though that has helped with the NC. I tell myself that I will call her on May 13th and ask if she wants to get together for coffee that weekend or something. Whether I actually do it or not isn't so important, but I have promised myself I won't call until then. By then I may not even want to call though lol. I would like to see her, but I know that I don't love her like a friend, and she was pretty clear that she wouldn't feel comfortable being around me until I don't love her like a gf anymore (pretty crazy thing to ask of someone "Please just stop loving me (paraphrase)" lol) Any suggestions on the birthday call? I know most will say NC on her birthday will send a strong signal, but I also don't want to seem like I no longer care at all. Sooooo confused. Send some love I did NC for my ex's b-day and I think it bugged her b/c I got a crank call(private number) the next night at the usual time we use to talk with one another. Then she contacted me one night before my birthday and I didn't respond until after my b-day. I think you should definitely do NC for her B-day especially if she's with another guy. Also I think her telling you not to contact her until you don't love her romantically is a clear indication that you should let go and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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