MichaelisSingle Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Basically my gf of a year and a half broke up with me. Part of the reason she broke up with me is because i took her for granted and didnt invest enough effort into the relationship. bottom line is she broke up with me saying she needed time. its been 2 months and she is already dating another guy.. i think she broke up with me for him but it could be a rebound also... before we broke up she was madly in love with me and said she could have seen us getting married. right now we dont talk at all but we ended on good terms. She knows im madly in love with her bc i was desperate at first to get her back (i ****ed up). ive been trying NC and i want moving on to make her jealous (i reallllly want her back) but at the same time i want to move on just in case she doesnt want me back. i hear the guy she is with can be a douche after a few months of dating, but right now they seem to be going great and i hear they are together alll the time. just wanted to know what you guys thought of this, let me know if you need more info, and thanks for any advice Link to post Share on other sites
thornfield Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I guess you could give it a shot, call her, but you are going to have navigate a mine field of emotions. Hers and yours. Expect anything: no answer, ranting or shoving what she has now in your face. Can you here the worst thing she has to say and still love her enough to say "Im sorry, I love you, hope you are happy, call me if you need to talk."? I am a hopeless romantic - take a shot - but be ready. Link to post Share on other sites
AvgJoeDoe Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Well you have to let her move on as rough as it sounds looks like sometimes we react too late as guys. I did and thats why im here too you need to understand that no matter what we do and if they got their minds set to move on you wont change that specially if shes having a great time with him. But theres hope too not at is lost if hes the douche bag that you say and it comes to her attention maybe that would be her wake up call to realize what good you were with her, other than the lack of attention. As some other ladies in here posted somewhere "We need attention and care like the flowers" or something like that. In the mean time the more you think about it the more is going to hurt you I know im in the same spot. So try to get your mind out of her relationship and deal with your life enjoy it and get some hobbies, workout, dance lessons, etc. Like me im waking up every morning at 530 am and going to the gym and work out then head to work and afterwards go to my flight training. Try something like that something that you love to do and believe me its going to make life easier. Also if you have the need to contact her go to the post around this forums where it says to "write here instead of contacting ex" i done it. Try NC with her set your self for 30 days then 60 then 90 i think you were the last one to try getting her back now its her turn! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Continue NC for another 4 months and reassess. NC means not seeking out any information about her, contacting her, or accepting knowing contact from her. No harm in meeting some other eligible ladies. Big sea out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelisSingle Posted March 14, 2008 Author Share Posted March 14, 2008 (edited) thanks guys, a few more things, im going to the beach this weekend, and a girl i met from ny before my ex and i started dating is going to be there too. this girl gave our relationship hell bc i was attached to her when my ex and i first started dating, but it wasnt going to be anything bc she lives 19 hrs away.. lol. but anyways i was thinking about meeting her to make my ex jealous but at the same time this might be the scenario to avoid if i want my ex back, idk tho and its her birthday in 4 days, she's out of town on vacation too bc its spring break, but should i text her happy bday or nc for that too? ive seen the number 4 a lot on the forums so thats been my new goal. problem is i run into a lot of our mutual friends. i tried to make it seem like ive changed and im no longer attached, but i know she knows i havnt moved on. thats why im trying to bring another girl into the picture. also i dont think im in the position to chase anymore. going from nc to chasing back in forth prob wont help my cause at all ive already been doing the things like going to the gym and dance lessons and ive already heard the worst and i for whatever reason i still love her to death Edited March 14, 2008 by MichaelisSingle Link to post Share on other sites
thornfield Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Dude - do not hurt another girl because you want to make you ex jealous. You will only end up making things worse. If you want to date a girl do it because you like her and for no other reason. Link to post Share on other sites
aln186 Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 What's with all the game playing? There's no need... just go out and date other people, legitimately. I think in your case, once you've met someone else, she's just going to be a distant memory. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelisSingle Posted March 14, 2008 Author Share Posted March 14, 2008 i think you could be right, and my eyes are open, i am looking for other girls not to make her jealous, but to move on with. the thing is, im very picky about the woman i date. they have to be smart, funny, good looking, not a whore, etc. pretty much the works. i dont really know where to find a girl like this. im in college, and i go to the library and student center to scout, ive joined several clubs. there arent any girls in most of my classes. im sure in time ill find another... i just wish it would hurry up! Link to post Share on other sites
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