HookahHookah Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 So, heres the story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now, and have been pretty happy with each other for a while. Recently, we both went to the same college, and have been spending more time with each other than in the past. She has always had a problem with controlling her mouth, but now it's starting to go too far. She calls me stupid, ugly, small penis (not true lol), a loser etc. It sucks. And the thing is, is I can't go as far as to say one name back, or everything will escalate into a horrible argument. So instead, I try to talk to her about her calling em names, telling her it hurts me, etc, and her response? Calling me more names, and telling me it's my fault that she calls me names, etc. It's crazy, she calls me names and I can't do anything about it, even if I try to talk about it instead of getting offended and lashing out (which I should be). She also will hit me and shove me sometimes. I maintain my composure most of the time, but sometimes I lose it, and lash out, and it ****s up everything. I try to tell her that she can't just abuse me all the time, but she says it's my fault. What the **** do I do? I have an intense attachment to this girl, so I put up with it. It ****ing sucks though. Link to post Share on other sites
Legend Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Break up with her man, you don't need anyone that's verbally abusive. Link to post Share on other sites
Replicant Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Did this girl physically extract your spine once she got leave from the asylum? Dude there is no reason why anyone on earth has to put up with such $hit talk, yet in cases like yours you allow your self esteem to take a nose dive in sacrifice for sewage quality companionship? The path to happiness is not far from reach, just make sure she's out for garbage pickup mouth and all. Link to post Share on other sites
Balthazar Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 It would be great if your shouting matches could degrade(upgrade?) into some rough and nasty sex! Link to post Share on other sites
NuTuDating Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Be a man, dump her. If you've tried talking and it's done no good, it's time to put her in her place.... by the curb. Seriously, if you love someone and you're doing something that's annoying and they ask you to stop, you should stop. She hasn't. Talk to her again, but eventually, if it's excessive and she can't take the heat back, she's not worth keeping around. Joking and cutting up is a great part of a relationship, but if a girl likes to dish it, she better be able to take it in good nature! Link to post Share on other sites
Carmen87 Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Get rid of her. My current boyfriend had an ex girlfriend that sounds just like yours. She would physically abuse him and then verbal abuse came along. She never stopped and he finally got rid of her. If you have tried talking to her and she refuses to see she has a problem, you need to get out for the sake of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 OP, examine why you "have an intense attachment to this girl".... She obviously treats you like cr@p, so there must be something....looks, good in bed, etc. Is she bi-polar? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 She's always had problems controlling her mouth with you or in general? If it's just recent when you started spending more time together due to school maybe you need to take a break - if it's on going - and she doesn't get the picture... well she'll get the picture if you leave her. Link to post Share on other sites
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted March 15, 2008 Share Posted March 15, 2008 She sounds unbearable. Nobody should have to put up with somebody who has no respect (and indeed, the opposite of respect) for them. Link to post Share on other sites
AussieJack Posted March 15, 2008 Share Posted March 15, 2008 She sounds unbearable. Nobody should have to put up with somebody who has no respect (and indeed, the opposite of respect) for them. AussieJack's 'Set in Stee'l Rule #6 for men - " At the first sign of significant disrepect, DUMP her." Just walk away without a word. Forget the 'communication" mantra - it does not work with low quality woman. Do it even if she is the hottest, horniest babe and looks like a PLayboy model. This kind of woman is disturbed mentally, and they NEVER improve because they compulsively blame the guy and refuse to accept any blame for their own behavior.. Look up 'Borderline Personality Disorder.' Your G/f is no lady - you deserve a feminine woman - we all do. Resist the urge to play Captain-save -a- ho....bail while you are still sane. Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted March 15, 2008 Share Posted March 15, 2008 OMG! You're dating my mom?! J/K plenty of good advice here already. Anyway maybe she wants out of the relationship and this is how she's doing it. Sometimes when people are immature they think the only way to end a relationship is to have it explode. Link to post Share on other sites
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