Is There Any Way To Break A Love Triangle?

[Kamille]

I'm being serious here. Can someone kindly explain to me why it is so important to know if SP and SP's bf are the same person? I know there's a good valid reason, but all the ones I come up with seem lame.

 

Anyone could be lying about who they are on this website, so why does it matter so much in this case?

 

Hey, maybe SP and I are the same person! Ever think of that?

[Ocean-Blue]

I know this thread is likely to get deleted or locked... However, I cannot sit idly by and let this go. I really, really can't.

 

Star Gazer. You have done much more than express a "simple suspicion". TBF has posted about her suspicions, but she stopped at that, didn't she? Nowhere in her posts does she insult Shadow. However, you've done this in this thread (and many others I might add - you've indirectly referred to her as crazy, etc).

 

In a previous post on this thread, you responded to the OP's post where he stated: "[g]irls like her don't come along every day, or at least not to me."

 

Your response to this was the following:

Ain't that the truth...but not in a good way.

 

You were not expressing any concern over the identity of the poster, you were putting her down. She has contributed time and thought to your threads about your relationship woes, and yet you do not hesitate to bash her as you've done here. Why is that?

 

Normally, I don't get involved in this sort of stuff. But I just had to call you out on this.

[Star Gazer]

I'm being serious here. Can someone kindly explain to me why it is so important to know if SP and SP's bf are the same person? I know there's a good valid reason, but all the ones I come up with seem lame.

 

You can't be serious, K.

 

If they are one and the same, then this is a troll situation and there's simply no advice to give. If they are one and the same, this thread wastes our time and uses up energy and focus that could be devoted to those who actually are here for advice and help. If they are one and the same, then Shadow is laughing at us, mocking us, tormenting us with the intricacies of this very elaborate story. That is not what LS is about. That seems clear to me.

[Spectre]

Is this a joke, or something? This girl asked to go on a break with you just to go date your friend? Grade A skank behavior.

 

I hope it is a joke, or else I've lost faith in all humanity, how do people treat each other like this, and why do people allow themselves to be treated with such blatant disrespect. I just can't imagine someone asking to go on a break and then getting with the persons friend.

 

Guys seem to really love skanky girls, that is what I have gathered from coming to this board.

[shadowplay]

I've done nothing more than question the identity of the person posting as "Shadowplay's BF." He writes exactly like YOU, and quite unlike how he's written before in the emails you've posted. In addition, most third-parties that come on here aren't able to be so calm, lucid, and proper when referring to the LS member's member name. He calls Doug Doug, so why isn't he calling you by your name? Can YOU not see how some of us would question this? Particularly when you've admitted sitting together while "he" types and the two of you laugh at us?

 

How you're able to read into what should be viewed as perfectly reasonable suspicion as a statement that I want you to leave is beyond me.

 

But I will admit that your efforts to stretch a simple suspicion into such hurtful insinuations does lead me to believe you're hoping for even more attention and sympathy from LS, which amazes me since you'd admitted you laugh us with your BF.

 

Doug's real name is not Doug, so my bf was indeed trying to protect his friend's privacy by changing the name. He already had a convenient handle to call me by (Shadowplay), so he didn't have to invent a name for me or call me by my real name.

 

I figured it wasn't a big deal to use the friend's real name since it's so common and I was tired of referring to him as "the friend." Perhaps that was foolish of me. I haven't ever used my bf's name because it is unusual, and I also feel more loyalty to him than I do to the friend.

 

I guess this is moot anyway, because nothing I can say would convince you guys that I'm being honest. Entertain for a second the possibility that it is my bf; how would I ever prove that to you? All you have is my word, and apparently my word is no good on here.

[Kamille]

You can't be serious, K.

 

If they are one and the same, then this is a troll situation and there's simply no advice to give. If they are one and the same, this thread wastes our time and uses up energy and focus that could be devoted to those who actually are here for advice and help. If they are one and the same, then Shadow is laughing at us, mocking us, tormenting us with the intricacies of this very elaborate story. That is not what LS is about. That seems clear to me.

 

You think Shadow has spent the last few months on this website establishing her identity just so she could perform this coup?

 

I declare that brilliance if that's the case and I'm more then willing to go along with it. I don't have a tv, do LS is my first source of unexpected twists and turns.

 

I chose who I respond to and I do so irregardless of what their intentions are. It's the same when I give money to a homeless person: I give it to him/her to do with it what they want. If they fool me, at least my intentions were honest.

[Spectre]

If I were you I'd tell people it wasn't your bf, even if it was, cuz if what he said was true it just makes you look plain awful.

[Star Gazer]

I know this thread is likely to get deleted or locked... However, I cannot sit idly by and let this go. I really, really can't.

 

Star Gazer. You have done much more than express a "simple suspicion". TBF has posted about her suspicions, but she stopped at that, didn't she? Nowhere in her posts does she insult Shadow. However, you've done this in this thread (and many others I might add - you've indirectly referred to her as crazy, etc).

 

In the thread(s) you're referring to, I actually was NOT referring to Shadow. So that's your own opinion that she's crazy. I don't think she's "crazy," just selfish and cruel towards her BF. I thought it was quite obvious who I was referring to...

 

Anyway...

 

In a previous post on this thread, you responded to the OP's post where he stated: "[g]irls like her don't come along every day, or at least not to me."

 

Your response to this was the following:

Ain't that the truth...but not in a good way.

 

You were not expressing any concern over the identity of the poster, you were putting her down. She has contributed time and thought to your threads about your relationship woes, and yet you do not hesitate to bash her as you've done here. Why is that?

 

Why did I say that? Because it's the truth. People like Shadow don't come along everyday, and I can honestly say that I truly hope I never find myself in a relationship with a male version of Shadow (which appears to me to actually be her BF!).

 

If you can honestly sit here and say this is a good situation Shadow has PUT HERSELF IN; that the way she has treated her BF (or Doug/Sean) was with kindness and any ounce of respect; that she has made thoughtful choices in how she treats those who she proclaims to LOVE; that she has not manipulated her BF and/or "Doug/Sean" and therefore is not also capable of manipulating internet strangers, well then... I don't know how to explain it to you other than to say I completely disagree.

 

I'm not alone in thinking Shadow has brought this entire situation upon herself. She has NOT treated her BF as he deserves to be treated. She has treated him like...worthless crap. I have all sorts of descriptive words I could use to describe what I think of her behavior, but you'll probably report me if I use such terms (and I don't think my commentary here is anywhere near as harsh as those who've come before me). But let's just say this entire situation, her entire relationship and her entire pattern of behavior is just NOT RIGHT.

 

Sure, she's provided some very thoughtful advice to me and many others (which makes her own behavior that much more confusing), and when she has it has certainly been very much appreciated. However, in my most humble and honest of opinions, that doesn't absolve her of her wrongdoing. Not at all. Simply because she's helped me in the past doesn't mean that I should sit silent and watch her treat others like dirt, does it? Gosh, I hope not.

Edited March 18, 2008 by Star Gazer

[Spectre]

What Star Gazer said is true, just because a person has given sound advice in the past doesn't mean they are above treating people like crap, or above people pointing it out. Obviously she doesn't take the advice she has given to others and apply it to her own life.

[Kamille]

However, in my most humble and honest of opinions, that doesn't absolve her of her wrongdoing.

 

But it's not like reaching sainthood is a prerequisite for posting on LS.

 

I also don't think she is asking us to absolve her or that we are letting her get away with much.

[Tony]

This thread is devolving into off topic and inflammatory babble and has to be closed. I hope some of the posts were helpful to the OP. Many thanks to all who participated in a manner consistent with guidelines.