Jealous?

[New]

Ok, here's my story. I'm in my first grade in high school. I meet her (lets call her Y) since the beginning of the academic year (August 07). At that time until Feb 08, we're just friends, maybe a really good friends. We do a lot of things together (group-work, etc.).

 

And there's one more thing that I think really helped us to build our feelings: there's a self-defense extracurricular which sometimes need partner (not always a boy & a girl) and sometimes it include touching your partner's hand/neck/etc. However, at that time, we're still "good friends", no feelings attached yet (at least that's what I feel ).

 

Then, in the beginning of Feb 2008, I had a crush on her (I just like her personality), it's just I didn't show it to her (I just keep it in my heart) and just act normal. Then, somehow I feel that she became closer to me. She gave me more attention that what she usually give me (in the past). We started to sit closer (really close) and sometimes her knee touches mine. And when she calls me, she start to touch my shoulder (which she doesn't normally do to other guys).

 

Now, here comes the sad part. Last week, there's a girl (let's call her X) who need to talk to me about her problem (you know, it's their escape mechanism when having problem) and because at that time I'm still not sure whether Y does really like me or not, then I let X talk to me (but I don't like X as a girlfriend, we're just friends). I sat down and she stood up (so, we're not being close).

 

When I was talking to X, suddenly Y appeared and pretended like she was looking for someone (I guess) which I suspect she was checking what me & X were doing. Then I called Y... and we (me, X, Y) had a little conversation together and then Y left us...

 

The next day, Y stopped talking to me. If I ask her a question she will always answer "I don't know". But, I still caught her eyes looking at me several times. And even if I'm talking about a group project, she still answer the same ("I don't know"). I'm curious whether she really doesn't want to talk about it or it's just because of it's me who asked her. So, I decided to ask the other group member to ask the same question. And guess what, she answered the question.

 

I feel that she tried to make me jealous (by touching/getting really close to other guys, which she doesn't normally do) although I'm not a kind of person who get jealous that easily. I think she did it on purpose. And I really like her very much... (maybe it's love )

 

So, is it because of jealousy? What should I do next? Do you think she's still interested in me?

 

I really need your help.

 

Thanks.

Edited March 16, 2008 by New

[Moon Ram]

She is really interested in you. Act normal, don't show your jelousy. If you show your jelousy, then seh will think that you are desperate, and that is really unattractive.:laugh:

[New]

I think I didn't make myself clear enough, I'm not jealous (I do really trust her). The problem is I think she is jealous. How she behave to me before & after my little talk to X has changed drastically. I did really notice the differences.

 

At the moment, our relationship is, well, at a normal state (she doesn't ignore my anymore, and we're not that close either). I still caught her several times staring at me.

 

When I was talking to another girl (just a normal talk, we were standing & make some space, not sitting closely ) and when she saw that, I could feel that she gave me 'that kind of look' (jealous/angry kind of look).

 

So, what should I do next? I really like her .