Spidr Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Hello again...I have posted about my relationship a few days ago. Everything was going great. We had agreed on communicating on the weekends and sometimes during the week (with webcams and mic) due to her busy exams these 2 months. She did not show up on Friday and I phoned her. We planned to meet at 7pm this saturday, but she didn't show up.I waited for nothing. So I messaged her and told her that i understand that you are busy, but I have been waiting a whole week to speak to you. And that I felt as if you are forgetting me when you do this. She replied back that she was sorry but she is feeling lost, stressed and very tired and that she wants some time to be alone to get better... This left me sorrounded by toughts. I feel about to explode. What do you think about this situation? Thanks for your help Link to post Share on other sites
ellie01 Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Just give her some time, I'm sure she'll be fine once the stress of exams are coming to an end. She'll appreciate that you gave her the distance that she needed to concentrate on her studies. Its hard when your partner can't communicate as normal, but in this case I wouldn't take it personally. Be patient and it should pay off ... are her exams over 2 months? That is a long time, maybe ask her to call you when she can and leave the ball in her court. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spidr Posted March 16, 2008 Author Share Posted March 16, 2008 I really don't know what to think. Sometimes I think that she is loosing hope becuase of the distance. She stills says that she loves and all. But how can it be that she doesn't feel the need to communicate at least once during a whole week? Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 I really don't know what to think. Sometimes I think that she is loosing hope becuase of the distance. She stills says that she loves and all. But how can it be that she doesn't feel the need to communicate at least once during a whole week? Hi Spidr... I know you are frustrated, disappointed and and a bit bewildered by her behavior at the moment, but try to be patient and give her a little space to get her head sorted out. Just because she's "feeling lost" doesn't mean she is losing hope about your relationship in particular. Sometimes when someone is stressed and tired everything seems hopeless and bleak, and the only way to crawl back out of that hole of despair is one step at a time, on your own. She's told you before that her schooling is very important to her and there's a lot riding on her successfully completing her exams, so try to be supportive while she works through all the pressures she's feeling right now. The fact you stood by her by honoring her request won't go unnoticed. In the meantime, try to keep yourself busy and keep the faith! Your girl says she loves you. That's the most important thing. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 OP, go out and have some fun with friends or on your own. Let her set up the next communication session. No rush. So I messaged her and told her that i understand that you are busy, but I have been waiting a whole week to speak to you. And that I felt as if you are forgetting me when you do this. Clingy. I know you don't think so, but it's how she thinks and feels that's important here. When she contacts you (this means you do not contact her), you tell her what you want from her. Don't analyze her actions. It's up to her how she wants to proceed. Again, live your life around you, not around her. How do I know this? Walked in your shoes, back when web cams were funny looking balls and black and white Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spidr Posted March 17, 2008 Author Share Posted March 17, 2008 Yes you are right. yesterday she came online and we spoke about it. She told me again about her stress. And she told me that its good to show that i love her but i need to be more dynamic. The problem that i faced was that it was difficult for me to handle this reduction in communication and it made me more clingy. She told me that she still loved me and is still into our relationship but when I act like this she get confused about our future. I never was clingy on a girl before (rather the opposite) but I never had an LDR and it is a little hard. I told her that since I know what is bothering her I will make my best to be normal again. I just hope that it is not too late. Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 I told her that since I know what is bothering her I will make my best to be normal again. I just hope that it is not too late. Spidr, Too late? You just spoke to her about what was troubling her and that you'll work on giving her more space a few days ago. I wouldn't worry about it, unless you haven't been keeping your promise. Chillax, Spidr! Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Eilonwy Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Once a weeks is hardly clingy... I mean, she didn't even let him know she wouldn't be there. That's just rude, no matter how much she needs some alone time... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 It wasn't the period that was clingy, it was the tone of his message. How do I know? Vast experience with making the same mistake IMO, far better to express one's desires than to analyze another's actions, especially where women are concerned Link to post Share on other sites
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