Author Cagney Posted March 24, 2008 Author Share Posted March 24, 2008 I used erstwhile as I thought you were in the 'it's over' stage and technically she wasn't a "g/f" as she was married to someone else. Just call me pedantic lol Back to the dictionary I go ... Oh ... OK I wasn't clear on that was I? It was the exMW. I guess that over the years, I got this habit of referring to her as "my girlfriend". As in the many situations when someone would ask something like, "So what did you do on the weekend?" My answer would be, "I spent some time with my girlfriend ..." etc. I couldn't say "I spent some time with my married woman." But now if someone would ask, "So what have you done with the last 7 years of your life?" My answer would be, "I wasted it on a bitch!" Just call me mordant (not lol) No ... no ... wait a minute! I loved every moment with her. And she taught me some pretty cool things about romance and touching and cuddling and orgasms. Now I can't wait to try 'em out on someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 Not with a ten foot pole ... But now after the divorce ??? Can I see some photos? LMAO!!! Ok but to make something clear and this is going to shed some light on those that perhaps are awaiting for their MM/MW to make a move... "after the divorce" really means what my legal status is going to be. I am terminal about not ever going back to that relationship- it is over!!! So legally divorced or not, I am going to move on with my life... with that said, the MM/MW that gives you bull about still being "M" and not taking the further step with you is just using that as an excuse to get dessert. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 He's here with me with C-3PO! Don't go dying on us now! I stating that no one should be messing, at least till things are settled, besides, it'll be the better for you, no regrets! They say it's not good to jump from one relationship right into another! You gotta watch your back! :lmao: I dont have time for the dating nonsense... proved it this weekend! But that was not why I was in almost tears, too late to explain not. I'm over it. Actually did thread made me get over it. LOL! Thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cagney Posted March 24, 2008 Author Share Posted March 24, 2008 LMAO!!! So legally divorced or not, I am going to move on with my life... ... just using that as an excuse to get dessert. OK then, if I take your word for it then there might be some dessert? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cagney Posted March 24, 2008 Author Share Posted March 24, 2008 :lmao: I dont have time for the dating nonsense... proved it this weekend! But that was not why I was in almost tears, too late to explain not. I'm over it. Actually did thread made me get over it. LOL! Thanks guys! That's good to hear. It's helping me too. This thread and some of the others. I hope you'll explain more when you get the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 OK then, if I take your word for it then there might be some dessert? S***w dessert, I want a full meal = ) Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 [quote=Cagney;1587120 No ... no ... wait a minute! I loved every moment with her. And she taught me some pretty cool things about romance and touching and cuddling and orgasms. Now I can't wait to try 'em out on someone else. That's the point isn't it ? To take from it the good things and carry them with you as you build a new life. Personally I don't have any regrets, it was mostly good, but then I didn't have the "cheating" mindset to contend with on either side, so that probably helps. I do hope you meant mordant in the adjectival sense rather than as a substance used to set fabric dyes (or you could end up verdant instead) Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 OK then, if I take your word for it then there might be some dessert? Ok Thurs or whenever it was... I was almost in tears because I got a call from the loser of my stbxH, first civil conversation in months! Anyway, he came out with a bunch of nonsense and acted as if him and I are "boys". I didnt come out of my face because I was at work but I had no intentions to really entertain a 30 mins conversation with him. He left off with a "you and I have a lot to talk about" and I said "you and I do have a lot to talk about-it's called Child support and alimony" and he said you'll see... we have a lot to talk about. Whatever!. So tonight I get home and opened my mail. Sure there is... a letter! has not tried writing to me since December, all of the sudden a letter???!! And OW get ready for this... Where he is telling me that every night he fights the demons that tell him that he F'ed up a good home and that he knows that he's made the biggest mistake of his life. That he knows that it is "kind of" late to chenge things... right now that is. Right now I am responsible for the feelings of 2 women. Sure, maybe she and I will be alright , but II'll always have that guilt inside. (GUILT!?!?!? That same feeling that he felt for cheating on me and that is why he told me to beat it- because he was tired of living with guilt- guilt?!??!!) Maybe she and I will be miserable. Just "bare" with me on this one... I'm not saying to wait for me, obviously cuz youre probably already "seeing" somebody (WTF CAGNEY!! I told you to keep it on th elow- jk!) but just let me learn on my own and I'll deal with the consequences later. I knwo what I am doing or at least i 'think" i know, I just want to know that I'm tired of my bs. (Whatever that means). Lunatic! WTF is all that supposed to mean???? Sad to see someone that I've known almost my whole life as a mere stranger. I ave no diea what it is that he is inplying... and sorry to sidetrack ths thread but I need some input. LOL! Nothing changes on my part. I am moving forward with my life and that is that! whatcha thinkk??? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 (edited) :lmao: I dont have time for the dating nonsense... proved it this weekend! But that was not why I was in almost tears, too late to explain not. I'm over it. Actually did thread made me get over it. LOL! Thanks guys! So.... When did you want me to pick you up? I know you like em tall DARK and ha.... well, I think you know where I'm going!:love: Ah, I know it's a line but hey, ya never do know! You wanted me next tuesday, Uh, I mean you wanted me to pick you up next tuesday, right? Edited March 27, 2008 by Darth Vader Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 So.... When did you want me to pick you up? I know you like em tall DARK and ha.... well, I think you know where I'm going!:love: Ah, I know it's a line but hey, ya never do know! You wanted me next tuesday, Uh, I mean you wanted me to pick you up next tuesday, right? HA! A bit too late there... you stood me up! it's thursday. And I like them in any shape and form they come... they even metalish at times! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 HA! A bit too late there... you stood me up! it's thursday. And I like them in any shape and form they come... they even metalish at times! No, I said next Tuesday! Not this Tuesday! There was a Dark Jedi convention that I just couldn't miss! Anyway, are ya game!? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 And I like them in any shape and form they come... they even metalish at times! OH BABY!!!!!!!! Come and get me!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 OH BABY!!!!!!!! Come and get me!!!!! Is this where I cheat on Cagney??? How was the convention? any hot chicks? Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 Not with a ten foot pole ... But now after the divorce ??? Can I see some photos? Photos of who? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 Is this where I cheat on Cagney??? How was the convention? any hot chicks? You two aren't even together yet! No, not really, unless you count the really furry females, and they were only hot temperature wise, not in looks! By the way, what about those pics, oh, wait, it's gotta be after the divorce goes all the way through, the Dark Side really tries to creep up on me! Not easy to resist at times! Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 You two aren't even together yet! No, not really, unless you count the really furry females, and they were only hot temperature wise, not in looks! By the way, what about those pics, oh, wait, it's gotta be after the divorce goes all the way through, the Dark Side really tries to creep up on me! Not easy to resist at times! Ok, fill me in... Me divorcing or not (which I am) has nothing to do with what I do with my life next. We will never get back together. So just out of curiosity why is it so important to you? LOL! I know the drill with legalities and yada, yada... But outside this cyber space, would you date a woman that is legally (just legally) married? There are people that are married to obtain legal immigration status and they have nothing going on. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 would you date a woman that is legally (just legally) married? There are people that are married to obtain legal immigration status and they have nothing going on. LOL! I've noticed that some people on this forum still insist that if you're "married, you're married" whether you're separated, papers filed, yada yada........... To my mind someone like you (as I was) that is separated pending divorce and has ZILCH chance of ever going backwards on that aspect, while being "legally married" can be regarded as single. As I said though, some on here will disagree with that viewpoint. The only mistake I made was thinking the MM I was involved with was in the same situation with his separation, but that's a risk you take I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cagney Posted March 28, 2008 Author Share Posted March 28, 2008 The only mistake I made was thinking the MM I was involved with was in the same situation with his separation, but that's a risk you take I guess. So your xMM gave you the same line? OK then, that's exactly why I would (now) say, "Call me when you're free!" or maybe ... "How about FWB?" Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 (edited) Ok, fill me in... Me divorcing or not (which I am) has nothing to do with what I do with my life next. We will never get back together. So just out of curiosity why is it so important to you? LOL! I know the drill with legalities and yada, yada... But outside this cyber space, would you date a woman that is legally (just legally) married? There are people that are married to obtain legal immigration status and they have nothing going on. LOL! Looking has really posted it all, it may just differ from person to person. I know you say that you're never going back, however, no one person can tell the future! Edited March 28, 2008 by Darth Vader Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 I've noticed that some people on this forum still insist that if you're "married, you're married" whether you're separated, papers filed, yada yada........... To my mind someone like you (as I was) that is separated pending divorce and has ZILCH chance of ever going backwards on that aspect, while being "legally married" can be regarded as single. As I said though, some on here will disagree with that viewpoint. The only mistake I made was thinking the MM I was involved with was in the same situation with his separation, but that's a risk you take I guess. I am SINGLE!!! Whooo Hooo!! My heart may not be 100% but time and perhaps a new person will change that percentage. There is always that sentiment that you feel for the departed that only a new love can wipe out. My lifestyle is of a single person though... parenting, entertaining and all in between. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 Looking has really posted it all, it may just differ from person to person. I know you say that you're never going back, however, no one person can tell the future! Oh trust me! I'm never getting back with that douchebag! It is OVAH!!!!!!! He got a girlfriend and they have flying for each other. Takes 2 to tango and 3 to f8ck it all up!!! So I am staying out of their romance and honeymoon... yet it was my marriage. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 Oh trust me! I'm never getting back with that douchebag! It is OVAH!!!!!!! He got a girlfriend and they have flying for each other. Takes 2 to tango and 3 to f8ck it all up!!! So I am staying out of their romance and honeymoon... yet it was my marriage. LOL! That musta been messy!:lmao: But, seriously, take it very slowly, don't just jump into another relationship! Talk about a girl on rebound! I just don't want you to get screwed over again, literaly. Sometimes I think I'm the only one decent man out there trying to save the male half of the human race. So much scum out there! Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 That musta been messy!:lmao: But, seriously, take it very slowly, don't just jump into another relationship! Talk about a girl on rebound! I just don't want you to get screwed over again, literaly. Sometimes I think I'm the only one decent man out there trying to save the male half of the human race. So much scum out there! Word! You must be the dark forces defender! I honestly dont have time for dating. At least not now. I am a single parent, with a career and businesses to run. I barely have time to see my friends and family. I'll be honest- I cant wait till have that feeling of excitement that meeting someone new can bring! I am young and (pardon the modesty) good looking, with good intentions and a strong mind. Any GOOD MAN would be lucky to have me!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 29, 2008 Share Posted March 29, 2008 Oh trust me! I'm never getting back with that douchebag! It is OVAH!!!!!!! He got a girlfriend and they have flying for each other. Takes 2 to tango and 3 to f8ck it all up!!! So I am staying out of their romance and honeymoon... yet it was my marriage. LOL! Same here , once I made my decision there was no WAY I was reversing it (and didn't) Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 29, 2008 Share Posted March 29, 2008 So your xMM gave you the same line? OK then, that's exactly why I would (now) say, "Call me when you're free!" or maybe ... "How about FWB?" Not sure it was "a line" - I think he truly believed his M was totally over and done, but nonetheless he eventually decided he had to "give it his best shot" (whatever that means). It may work, but frankly I doubt anything will change and I also probably won't be around to pick up the pieces. Link to post Share on other sites
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