unrequited love

[mephisto300]

Is there anything worse?

i have been told that we never stop loving someone, we just learn to live without them. If this is truly the case then i need to learn quickly.

I need some advice.

I recently went on a trip with my university skiing, i saw this guy and instantly was attracted to him and so set myself to talking to him. This was my first mistake. whilst abroad we became better friends and closer and shared a room until it got to the point where i have fallen too close to him. he has a girlfriend and doesn't even know that i like him or that i'm not straight.

we are now friends altho i haven't seen him yet. He also made a wish for his birthday one night when we were out and foolishly i hoped so much that it was for me that i asked him wht he wished for... i eventually broke him down and he said it was something on the trip and that he thinks i know. This raised my hopes and i was euphoric at the idea until later on that night i feigned ignorance and said the name of a girl we'd been talking to... it was her.

Now i don't know what to do...perhaps it could still be me as we were talking for ages and evading eachothers questions but i dont know what to do.

Sometimes i want him so much it burns and i feel that if anything can happen because it is wished then this is it. i can't let go and i can't have him... what do i do?? c

[Velvetvenus]

Hi , just wondering whether to post here as not sure if it is a gay friendly site, I am a lesbian in a similar situation to you in a way. Not possible to tell whether your friend might be bisexual or gay without seeing his body language towards you,even then, it is so hard especially when wishful thinking comes into it; I am in a lesbian relationship which is souring despite my best efforts, I can't stop thinking about another woman, don't know whether she is gay/straight/bisexual, I keep reading signs that she is interested but not sure if wishful thinking, burning up for her to the point of an obsession at the moment, seem to be totally out of control.Sorry I can't help but just to let you know others understand. And yes, unrequited love is the worst thing.