My Husband's Mother

[T&Me1117]

Hi everyone,

This post might be a long one and I am sorry and I will thank you ahead of time for reading it. My husbands mother is a drug addict. Let me start off by saying addiction runs in his family. He is a former meth user and has been sober for 4 years he moved all the way across the country to beat his addiction. (I am glad he did or we never would have met). We have a 16 month old daughter and we are expecting another little girl in July.

 

The reason that I am posting is that his mother (42 yrs old) is addicted to pain medication. She lost her job of 5 years for being under the influence at work She and my husbands younger sister had to move in with her mother who is exteremly sick with emphesyma. She worked at a hospital and used doctors to write scripts for her. I have only met her once. She live across the country and she never took the time to talk to me last time I was there (which she was high the whole time). She never calls to see how her grand daughter is. She never called to congradulate us on getting married (we had a small wedding here) When she is sober she will, she will write letters about saying how sorry she is and that she has depression. She started talking to a therapist. Which she got the therapist to write her a script for adderal saying that she couldn't focus. Our daughter doesn't even know that she has another grammy.

 

We haven't been out to visit his side of the family because I don't think that she deserves to see her. We have offered to fly her out here but she said she was afraid of flying (which is untrue I heard after she just wouldn't be able to get drugs here) Which is why I wanted her to come out here. She is high all the time and I don't want my daughter to be around someone like that grandmother or not. Her sister told me that he teeth are rotting out and she will have convulsions if she os going through withdrawals. She knows how I feel about it and she called crying saying that she would never hurt my daughter or put her in any danger. I wonder how you can say that when you can't control your actions when you are high all the time.

 

Well, to make a long story a little bit shorter, we are going there in 2 weeks we have told one family member that we are going there. Incase things get bad we are going to stay with her. She just got out of the hospital 4 days ago. She overdosed again. We are going because my husband grandmother is very sick and we don't know how much longer she will be with us. She asked to see our daughter and I don't want to punish the rest of the family because his mother is a drug addict. My husband has already told her when she called crying that when and if we come down there if she is high she doesn't get to see her (this is our descision).

 

I just wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this? I am starting to feel like I am a bad person keeping my daughter away from her other family, but as a mother that is my job to protect my children. I am afraid of the confrontation that may occur. Any imput would be great.