snoopdawg Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 [font=arial][/font] Hi everyone, Accidentally found this site while looking for some advice let me know what you think ..... I have recently broke up with my gf after 6 months, I know this is not long but I loved everything about her. I have been in many long term relationships and had a few inbetweens aswell, I therefore had a good idea of what kind of person I wanted to be with. Which in my mind was her. We met through a mutual friend, just so happend to be my best friend. His parents are incidentally also best friends with my ex gf parents, almost like family. I know recipe for disaster!. Besides all this we were close friends for about 1 year, I always liked her and hoped we could have a relationship. She is just about 29 and I'm 24. Things were absolutely amazing for the whole time I went out her, she made me very happy - things were spontanious and never boring. I dont tend to think about my gf's previous partners but in this case I had to show some consideration for the past. My gf was engaged for 8 years or so, and the guy just can't let her go. She called of the wedding 2 months beforehand, and I now realise how bad he must have felt. They have not been together for 2 years. Anyway, the entire time I was with her he would contact her. I never had a problem with this as I understood that this person was a big part of her life. I constantly reassured her, she was amazing in my eyes - so I made a point of telling her whenever I could. I believe in letting people know when I like them otherwise it may never be said. A couple of weeks ago we had a great day out with all my friends. I have a friend that I love but I know he can be a flirt. He was joking around with my gf and then then I played the jelousy card. I felt hurt that I never got that attention and I also felt taken for granted. Maybe it was a culmination of the ex bf and the situation coupled with my insecurity in the relationship. I also felt very bad of the accusation I made of my friend. Out of character for me! This is where it got messy, not suprisingly she was very upset and drove home. I went to her house to try and sort things out but it was all in vain. We have met up a few times since then but she says she just wants to be friends which I have to accept Ive caused enough damage. I think she will feel awkward (as I will) around both families and my friend. On the other hand, I have helped her through a whole host of problems when we went out - I know that doesn't entitle me to a medal or anything. When we argued we talked things through and sorted things out. Im not an argumentative person - they most always ended in her apologising. She told me that I brought the best out in her, this was flattering I therefore wanted to give her 100% and be there for her through whatever. I also love her sooo much. She's all I wanted!. She will continue to be in contact with me, but I cant turn my feelings off!! - I know I have to move on, but I feel that I have lost some of me. I have been a bit withdrawn lately. She is also stressed at her job and I was always there to support her before - her parents work out of the country. On a more positive note - I have healed a little - I have been thinking about her all day and even dream about her. I know if I truly love her I will leave her alone, which is what I intend to do. She said that she was falling in love with me. I will see her occasionaly - do you think you can go from lovers to friends, then friends to lovers ?? I know I blew it but things are ok with my friend and the families are ok..... Do you think I can get her back ? Link to post Share on other sites
MercyRose Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 Your behaviour may have overpowered her and put her off you as a romantic partner. Women don't like paranoid over reactions in public in front of friends. Give her a bit of space to get over it and get things into perspective. Then do something romantic and tell her you want to be in a relationship with her. If she turns you down again then accept her decision because she has probably decided you are not the one for her. Link to post Share on other sites
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