Reading "the signals"

[br0ken_w0lf]

OK, I've been out of the signal-reading game for *quite* a while now and, even at the best of times, they largely went over my head whereas other women would pick up on them immediately (exaggerated example: woman removes all clothing in front of me, I say, "you're right, it's too warm in here, let me turn down that thermostat")

 

Anyway, I'm just curious here... When a woman does the following (this is also in the workplace if it matters and doesn't happen ALL the time but sometimes), does it mean anything?

 

- when walking by, kind of brushes against you ever so slightly

- playfully hits you with some object by accident then jokes about it when I mention it

- occasionally stands extremely close to you (e.g. when observing something)

- smacks you on the arm when you make a joke

- when discussing activities, says something like "oh, you should try X with me"

 

I'm watching to see if this behavior is occurring with other people now but, again just curious. Am I reading too much into things or completely blind?

[fishtaco]

Problem is there isn't one set of signals that women use. That's the hard part. A playful smack on the arm for one woman means "ask me out on a date", while for the next woman getting in the hot tub naked together means "let's chat as friends". And that was NOT an exaggeration. There was this one women that did that with me. Luckily I knew what she was like already so I wasn't expecting anything. She's got a nice rack so I had a good view.

 

Best way is to observe how she is with other men. If she treats you the same as other men then you're not special, even if she's rubbing her boobs all over your face.

 

Extra bonus - you've deciphered her signals, you are special after all. But what is her motive? All it means is she wants something from you. What that something is, you don't know. Many women use sex appeal to get what they want. They could want what you have, or what you can do for them, but not you.

 

Once you've perceived signal, I'd say go for it. But be prepared to get a no. And never place your bets too high, because when you find out you're just being used, you have to bail.

[mlchris2]

Wolf, I'm going to say your not alone in this world... I'm sure there are many men out there just like you and I reading the signals.

 

Fish, hit it right on in my opinion.