Agnostic & finding a relationship

[fral945]

Are there many woman who would want a long term relationship with a man who is agnostic (assuming he was otherwise sane and relatively normal, of course)? I don't drink, smoke, or believe in a God, and frankly, it feels like sometimes I'm in the 0.01% of the world population.

 

Seems where I live at least (relatively small town in the South), religion is an important factor for women looking for men for long-term relationships. Most claim to be religious to some degree. I don't have extreme views ones on religion one way or the other, I just don't consider it necessary to live. For me, it boils down to having a philosophy of life. I'd love to hear from anyone who is agnostic that has found someone, it's just a bit frustrating sometimes. Should I specifically seeks out agnostic women (of which I haven't found any where I live), or is there any hope with someone of faith?

[Citizen Erased]

I don't see why it should be such a huge issue. I'm Catholic and my boyfriend is atheist, and there hasn't been one issue over it in 3 years. But then again, I'm not exactly a very good Catholic

[Rooster_DAR]

I hear you, it does often seem like we are alone. I live in the South (bible belt), so it's really bad here. My G/F is opposite, she is totally religious but somehow we manage to overlook our difference there.

[fral945]

I don't see why it should be such a huge issue. I'm Catholic and my boyfriend is atheist' date=' and there hasn't been one issue over it in 3 years. But then again, I'm not exactly a very good Catholic [/quote']

 

Well, I wish there were more like you! Actually, someone like you would be my preference. I think it would too difficult to get along with someone very religious (or anti-religious for that matter). I'm more of a middle of the road type of person, so those are the types I prefer. Just seems that once many women find that out about me, the door is pretty much closed. And the ones that do try to change me.

 

The last girl I dated was religious, and she always seemed to be trying to persuade me to become more religious, telling me stories about how God was watching over her & she just doesn't know how anyone could go through life believing there wasn't someone in control. She never came right out and said it, but it was pretty well implied. I think maybe she liked my other qualities but was hoping she could change that one.

 

I hear you, it does often seem like we are alone. I live in the South (bible belt), so it's really bad here. My G/F is opposite, she is totally religious but somehow we manage to overlook our difference there.

 

I feel you there, and I might be your next door neighbor, lol.

 

So your girlfriend doesn't have a problem with it? Hasn't caused any conflicts?

[Rooster_DAR]

Well, I wish there were more like you! Actually, someone like you would be my preference. I think it would too difficult to get along with someone very religious (or anti-religious for that matter). I'm more of a middle of the road type of person, so those are the types I prefer. Just seems that once many women find that out about me, the door is pretty much closed. And the ones that do try to change me.

 

The last girl I dated was religious, and she always seemed to be trying to persuade me to become more religious, telling me stories about how God was watching over her & she just doesn't know how anyone could go through life believing there wasn't someone in control. She never came right out and said it, but it was pretty well implied. I think maybe she liked my other qualities but was hoping she could change that one.

 

 

 

I feel you there, and I might be your next door neighbor, lol.

 

So your girlfriend doesn't have a problem with it? Hasn't caused any conflicts?

 

Yes, at times it has. We usually wind up agreeing to disagree and leave it at that. She sometimes thinks that I think religious people are stupid, but I don't because I was once religious myself and brough up a Christian. I think there is a possiblity of confilict in the future however, so I guess we wiil eventuall have to come to grips with your opinions at some point.

 

Cheers!

[norajane]

Sounds like it might be a problem with where you live. I have yet to date anyone who IS religious. I am not religious, and consider myself an atheist. I would actually have a real problem dating someone who took their religion very seriously.

 

I've lived in Chicago and San Francisco, and have never once dated a religious guy. Even my ex-fiancee is not at all religious and his father is a minister!

 

Maybe moving to a larger city that's not in the bible belt would do your love life some good.

[fral945]

Yes' date=' at times it has. We usually wind up agreeing to disagree and leave it at that. She sometimes thinks that I think religious people are stupid, but I don't because I was once religious myself and brough up a Christian. I think there is a possiblity of confilict in the future however, so I guess we wiil eventuall have to come to grips with your opinions at some point.[/quote']

 

I'm similar, raised Christian (specifically Presbyterian), went to Catholic school (mom was Presbyterian and dad was Catholic). I now live in an area that is mostly Baptist, so I've been exposed to quite a few different ones, lol. Good luck and hope everything works out for you.

 

 

Sounds like it might be a problem with where you live. I have yet to date anyone who IS religious. I am not religious, and consider myself an atheist. I would actually have a real problem dating someone who took their religion very seriously.

 

I've lived in Chicago and San Francisco, and have never once dated a religious guy. Even my ex-fiancee is not at all religious and his father is a minister!

 

Maybe moving to a larger city that's not in the bible belt would do your love life some good.

 

Thanks for the advice. I'm the same way, I generally try to avoid those that are very religious because I know the differences will be too great. I've actually thought about moving to a larger city for quite a while, but always thought (and hoped) I could find someone in this area. I actually like the size town I am in, but it's really eating at me not being able to find anyone. I think to improve my love life I may have to go that route.

[MsJJ]

I live where the focus on the family headquarters are. I know how you feel. I wore a bindi (the red dot) on my forehead (because i think its pretty ) and I was asked if I was muslim lol.

When you feel its time to improve your love life, then I would suggest like others maybe move to a bigger city where ppl are not as hung up on religion or too conservative. Wish you all the best.

[wareagle]

Okay, how do you love someone who is stuck between being a devote Christian, wanting to follow what the good book say's wants to be this person in their grandparents eyes, because they are devote christians, but then want to live a life full of deviant behavior, like drinking premaritial sex, jealousy, infidelity, betrayal?

[Rooster_DAR]

Okay, how do you love someone who is stuck between being a devote Christian, wanting to follow what the good book say's wants to be this person in their grandparents eyes, because they are devote christians, but then want to live a life full of deviant behavior, like drinking premaritial sex, jealousy, infidelity, betrayal?

 

I guess it depends on your perspective, many of the deviant things you list here are not issues if you don't practice or believe in religion in the first place.