wookinpanub Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 forget craigslist. I am going to work up the balls tomorrow and talk to this girl. I have seen her everyday at lunch and dinner in the cafeteria. I have been like smitten everytime I look at her, which is part of the reason i never could talk to her. The other part being that when in there she is always with like 4 friends. always. Well I ventured into the library today and lo and behold, guess who works there? This girl! I've made up my mind. Tomorrow. Should I not see her, it will be Friday. Now I just need some ideas on approach..... Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 Umm do you know her? Go up to her and ask her name! Link to post Share on other sites
KidEternity Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 Good stuff man, well she works in the Library so I assume she is interested in literature so you got a good starting point to get talking to her, take a book out and start chatting, but yeah keep us posted on how it goes dude! I take it you're in College, yeah? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wookinpanub Posted March 20, 2008 Author Share Posted March 20, 2008 Yeah, I am, KidEternity. A friend of mine was like, you should just tell her what you really think. She said to say this: "heyy i just wanted to let you know i see you everywhere and i think you're the most gorgeous girl i have ever seen and i just thought you would like to know that" quoted from her. I don't think I will though cuz thats like way forward and I'm not that ballsy. Link to post Share on other sites
surfcitysiren Posted March 21, 2008 Share Posted March 21, 2008 okay so I read this whole thread because I saw your screen name and laughed out loud. I had a total flashback of Eddie Murphy doing Buckwheat's greatest hits on SNL. Too funny. So was going to say hey, GREAT screen name! Wish I'd thought of it myself! LOL But since I read your post I have to say (as a woman), whatever you do, don't be too slick. Especially if she's hot. Trust me, us hotties have heard every line there is. It's okay if you are nervous or a little shy when you approach her. Believe it or not, some of us find that very endearing. Just be yourself. Don't tell her she's hot or even beautiful because her guard will go up right away. Just casually stroll up to her and ask her a legit LIBRARY question. And then after she answers it say something like, "You know....gosh....this is a little awkward, but...I see you all over campus and I don't even know your name or anything, but.....hey, I'm _______ (your name)." Don't stick your hand out. Wait for it. She'll probably respond by telling you HER name. If she sticks her hand out, shake it. Do not give her the dead fish handshake, whatever you do. If you are a dead fish handshake kind of guy, dig deep and summon a grip, okay? Just this once. Don't pump her arm up and down like a water pump. Make eye contact, but don't stare, you'll weird her out. Just try to be cool without trying to hard to be cool, knowutimean, Vern? If she seems a little, um, flustered or nervous around you (in a good way--like she messes with her hair or sort of covers her mouth when she smiles or has a difficult time maintaining eye contact before she averts her eyes and smiles) then you've got a chance with her. If it's awkward like she is just making an effort to be nice to you and not hurt your feelings and seems like she'd rather be doing anything else but having an awkward conversation with you, forget about her, pal.....other fish in the sea. Trust me. Girls know almost immediately if they are interested or not. It's not something there is a formula for. It's there or it isn't. You aren't going to change her mind. At the most you can be friends, but I am assuming that's not what you want. If she is sneaking glances at you in the caf, good sign. Unless she's sneaking glances, whispering to friends, they look at you and all laugh....then, maybe not. If she has never noticed you, that's okay. Now is your chance. Just be REAL. Good luck with Marian the Librarian! ; ) Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted March 22, 2008 Share Posted March 22, 2008 just talk to her and don't try to finish it right there (I like you , give me your number ) you are not going there to fight or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Siciliana Posted March 23, 2008 Share Posted March 23, 2008 Trust me, us hotties have heard every line there is. Have you by chance ever heard of modesty? Talk about turn-offs. OP, it would be nice of you to simply engage her in some conversation regarding what she likes to read, maybe what lead her to be a librarian, what her favorite music is. I would go in there at least once a week for a while every time making small talk with her. Learn about her likes and dislikes and maybe even her status as far as a relationship with another man is concerned. Keep an eye out for some public event that you think she might like (a concert, poetry reading, art fair, play....something neat/personal) After she has gained a sense of comfort with you, you could offer her your cell#/email and tell her that you heard of a concert/reading/show that you wanted to go to and that maybe she could go with you. If you could make it be about something that you have learned that you know she likes would be even better. If you don't find somewhere you might want to take her, maybe you can bring her a small token that you know she likes (a book. CD you made- something personal) and invite her to dinner. Good luck. I hope you get her Link to post Share on other sites
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