should i hang on there or stop??? confused!!

[jan]

hai guys out there..

 

I have met this guy in the net 1 yrs ago. Thing is moving pretty fast. We are miles away. Everything seems to be so new and moving pretty fast. We had sex and had a great time together. He's in his early 30's and i'm in my early 20's.

 

Perhaps the love is there. i'm confused cos he told me he likes me alot and want to ask me to be his gal however with the barrier that we have, he doesn;t dare to commit into a more serious and meaningful relatiosnhip with me. He has planted that seed of love on me and i'm looking foward

 

for this man to be mine. He's still confused with all this. We chat almost everyday and sometimes call. we both are always looking forward to see each other and share a great time together. The problem is i can't hang on or bare on just a friend kind of relationship. There is no clear cut to our relationship. Truly, i'm willing to take the chance, it's worth of a try but he has the doubts and still cannot give me the answer. i emailed him , telling all the hurt and love that i hv in this relationship.

 

He told me he just wanna be sure with his decision and that's why till now he cannot give me the answer. AM I GIVING HIM THE PRESSURE??

 

Due to his age of course he cannot full around with his love life cos he's more looking forward for marriage while me, i'm still doing my study and can still put marriage matter aside.I ever sounded to him about commitment and i'm willing to take the risk but again he cannot give me the answer. He wants it but afraid cos of the distance. The distance is really killig the both of us. Long distance relationship really needs alot of trust and commitment.

 

what should i do??should i just hang on and going on with the flow or shouldn't allow all this??

 

how can i make myself clearer to him about my feeling? about what i want?? i ever sounded to him and more or less he knows i want a commitment but then he asked me to bare with him firtst cause he's all awhile confused too.

 

He's coming this april to visit me, i'm confused cos if we still remain as friend i don't think i can allow myself to make love to him tho i know deep inside i hv already have the love for him. While him, i know he cares, concern and and like me a lot but this is not enough cos i can only make love to someone who 's willing to commit to me into a more meaningful relationship than to stay on based on so call ' speacial friend'?

 

pleasse helppp.... i don't know where to turn to but here is the place where i can get the advice from ur guys .Any help or insight would be greatly appriciated.

[Shirley]

hai guys out there.. I have met this guy in the net 1 yrs ago. Thing is moving pretty fast. We are miles away. Everything seems to be so new and moving pretty fast. We had sex and had a great time together. He's in his early 30's and i'm in my early 20's.

 

Perhaps the love is there. i'm confused cos he told me he likes me alot and want to ask me to be his gal however with the barrier that we have, he doesn;t dare to commit into a more serious and meaningful relatiosnhip with me. He has planted that seed of love on me and i'm looking foward

 

for this man to be mine. He's still confused with all this. We chat almost everyday and sometimes call. we both are always looking forward to see each other and share a great time together. The problem is i can't hang on or bare on just a friend kind of relationship. There is no clear cut to our relationship. Truly, i'm willing to take the chance, it's worth of a try but he has the doubts and still cannot give me the answer. i emailed him , telling all the hurt and love that i hv in this relationship. He told me he just wanna be sure with his decision and that's why till now he cannot give me the answer. AM I GIVING HIM THE PRESSURE??

 

Due to his age of course he cannot full around with his love life cos he's more looking forward for marriage while me, i'm still doing my study and can still put marriage matter aside.I ever sounded to him about commitment and i'm willing to take the risk but again he cannot give me the answer. He wants it but afraid cos of the distance. The distance is really killig the both of us. Long distance relationship really needs alot of trust and commitment. what should i do??should i just hang on and going on with the flow or shouldn't allow all this?? how can i make myself clearer to him about my feeling? about what i want?? i ever sounded to him and more or less he knows i want a commitment but then he asked me to bare with him firtst cause he's all awhile confused too. He's coming this april to visit me, i'm confused cos if we still remain as friend i don't think i can allow myself to make love to him tho i know deep inside i hv already have the love for him. While him, i know he cares, concern and and like me a lot but this is not enough cos i can only make love to someone who 's willing to commit to me into a more meaningful relationship than to stay on based on so call ' speacial friend'?

 

pleasse helppp.... i don't know where to turn to but here is the place where i can get the advice from ur guys .Any help or insight would be greatly appriciated.

Hi!

 

I'm not a guy, but would like to offer my advice, if that's okay. What this man wants right now is sexual fun. And he's using the distance issue as an excuse not to have a relationship. When men fall in love, they fall pretty hard. And it happens pretty suddenly with them. They know pretty much from the start whether they want to be with you for fun, or if you're someone they want to share their life with. And age doesn't make that much of a difference. Men don't have the thoughts of their time running out. They automatically assume that they will be studs forever.