Pocky Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Anyone else date or currently dating someone that is significantly younger than them? Just wondering how things worked (or didn't) out. In the present it's not an issue for either one of us; however, I worry about the future.
tanbark813 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I just started seeing a 21 year old and she's surprisingly non-flaky.
garnet Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I dated a 27-year-old when I was 34 and it ended badly. I wanted to believe he was emotionally mature enough, though deep down I knew he wasn't. I think it really depends on the individual though and what their life experiences have been. Some younger people can be more mature than older ones.
Shindig Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My favorite 3 reasons to date younger men: 1. Women live longer. 2. Men's ability to absorb and interpret verbal information begins to diminish at age 30. Women retain this ability well into menopause. 3. Men never really grow up anyways...
Balthazar Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 (edited) I am also dating a 21 year old young lady, but I'm not sure it's relevant as there is a difference between the man being the older in the relationship and the female being older. I believe you should just enjoy the time you spend with the guy, taking it one day at a time. Such relationships usually do not last past a few months, but if they do, there is the chance they will evolve into an LTR. It would be a good idea to examine his parents' ages. If his mom is older than dad, his experience growing up in such a household may have attracted him you in the first place;in such a case, chances are even better for a fruitful and lasting relationship. Edited March 20, 2008 by Balthazar
Trialbyfire Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I've never dated anyone younger than six months younger, and even then, I kinda' felt like I was cradle-robbing....no offense guys. A younger guy tends to be more playful. I can see the appeal to an extent. If this guy is both playful and mature, there's no reason why not to date him. Also, if you're a young 34 year-old, even better. In essence, you might meet in emotional and intellectual years, while not meeting in biological years. From a long-range perspective, you'll be 50, when he's 41, which, from a maturity and raising kids perspective, will be negligible.
Balthazar Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Only problem is that when he's 41, he going to be going through a mid life crisis, and if he takes care of himself, will be able to attract 20 something women. He will be just past his prime and his significant other will be menopausal. I would like to see how that will affect the marriage.
Lizzie60 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 There is no problem.. you don't even have 10 years difference.. I see a problem when there is 15+ yrs difference. I know a few couples who have 10 yrs difference and they're been married for quite some time.. I'm sure it doesn't even show.. you probably look younger and him a little older. There is no guarantee anyway... even if you are the same age. But I have to say that I don't believe in long term relationship for an age gap over 15 years.. I don't think it is realistic to think that it would work more than 5-10 years..
MsJJ Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My best friend "C" has been now married to her husband for 5 years. She is turning 34 and he is 25. They met when he was 20. Moved into together after only a few months, then got married, then had a baby. They are the happiest couple I know. Both of them are such wonderful ppl. I don't know if this helps but there is at least one good and happy turn out that I know personally here.
Shindig Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 If the chemistry and compatibility are there then who cares about the age difference? Don't cheat yourself out of a potentially awesome relationship just because a social convention exists that suggests men should date younger women...
burning 4 revenge Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 If the chemistry and compatibility are there then who cares about the age difference? Don't cheat yourself out of a potentially awesome relationship just because a social convention exists that suggests men should date younger women...I think the social convention is the opposite
Green Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 what is that, a gold statue in your avatar for judiasim?
Author Pocky Posted March 21, 2008 Author Posted March 21, 2008 Thanks for sharing your thoughts! As someone already guessed, I don't exactly look my age - I'm often thought to be about 28-29 and he is thought to be about 27 so at least we don't get stared at too much when we're out (I dated a man 50 when I was 25 and people couldn't stop staring every place we went). Surprisingly, the 25 year old is more mature than the 50 year old ever was! It's really more of the 'later years' that I worry about when my boobs are sagging and my butt is flat and he's 40's and starting (as someone suggested) his mid-life crisis episode and I'm dealing with turning 50! Guess I have no choice, but to wait and see what happens. Thanks gang!
Balthazar Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 (edited) Good luck with the relationship Edited March 21, 2008 by Balthazar
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