BlueDevil2003 Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 I have known this girl for years now. We go to the same school and we hang out with the same people. She is gorgeous, witty and most of all, has a very good personality. I would say, she caught my attention the moment I first saw her. I realized just recently that I am falling in love with her. A common friend of ours told me that she fancies me. But the only thing is, she has a boyfriend. He lives overseas. Last week, we were out with some friends and I had a chance to talk to her. I had to tell her how I really feel about her. Since it's been bugging. I couldn't stop it no more. She was surprised about my revelation and even mentioned to me that she likes me. However, she said she loves her boyfriend and that she value her relationship so much more than anything. I was impressed with what I heard. I honestly, like her more. Now I have this thought, I want to write the guy an e-mail telling him how lucky he is to have her. Yet I don't know if I would be doing the right thing? Any advices will highly be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Nazima Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 You've told this girl how you feel and she says she loves her boyfriend. Leave it at that and try to find someone else for yourself since she is obviously unavailable to you. My advice is to stay out of their relationship. If you start emailing her boyfriend she may think you are trying to come between them and will only make her stop liking you at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 Woooah there. Do NOT email the guy. What could you possibly gain from that? Don't think he's gonna get the email and think "Wow, my girlfriend is great. And I am lucky. And this guy is very nice for writing me. Wow, everythings perfect!" He's gonna think, "Who's this schmuck emailing me? Whats he doing with my girlfriend? Whats she doing with him?" Yada yada yada... it might cause them to break up, BUT she's gonna hear about it, and would blame you. So let it go and hang around for the breakup. Just don't get too friendly with her, or else you're stuck in the friendzone (which you might be already). I'd keep play flirting with her, but keep it light-hearted. And for gods sake don't email the boyfriend!!! Link to post Share on other sites
zman Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 I think you would have been better off not spilling your guts to this girl in the first place. You can let her know you like her by flirting with her and joking around. She's more likely to want you if she thinks it's a challenge to get you or if you are just out of reach. Once she knows you dig her big time, then there is no challenge or excitement, and you can quickly slide into a permanent friends only relationship. Long distance relationships hardly ever last, especially at a young age. Unless they have plans to live closer together in the near future, either by him moving to where she lives or vice versa, this relationship is not going to last, no matter what anyone says. So be patient and bide your time. Spend your time making yourself more attractive to her and other women. Go out with one of her friends or someone she knows, so word gets out about what a great guy you are to go out with. This will make her want to go out with you when she becomes available again. But don't just sit around not going out with anyone, waiting for her. Then you will get the reputation of a guy that never dates anyone and is awkward with women. I agree with Gray, don't email her boyfriend under any circumstances. There is absolutely nothing to be gained by that and everything to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
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