wintersun Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 HeavenOrHell>> How's everything going? It's almost there 66 days yet here. And the most difficult part is that I can't focus on anything besides this. Best regards 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Ok, thank you He's not well at the moment, hope he'll be ok by next week, also bit anxious as trains to where I'm going are cancelled because of bad weather, so if it's still as bad next week I won't be able to go, last time we met there were floods and I only just made it. 66 days is a long time I hope you can manage to keep busy, so that time goes more quickly... HeavenOrHell>> How's everything going? It's almost there 66 days yet here. And the most difficult part is that I can't focus on anything besides this. Best regards 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 I pick him up at the airport tomorrow night... I'm 80% excited and 20% nervous/terrified. Link to post Share on other sites
KoKo0 Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 I pick him up at the airport tomorrow night... I'm 80% excited and 20% nervous/terrified. Why nervous/terrified? Let me know how it goes, because I am as well NERVOUS and TERRIFIED, heheh. Link to post Share on other sites
KoKo0 Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 5 more days people! I'm going to throw up heheh:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Good luck, hope you can both work things out. I pick him up at the airport tomorrow night... I'm 80% excited and 20% nervous/terrified. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Ok, thank you He's not well at the moment, hope he'll be ok by next week, also bit anxious as trains to where I'm going are cancelled because of bad weather, so if it's still as bad next week I won't be able to go, last time we met there were floods and I only just made it. 66 days is a long time I hope you can manage to keep busy, so that time goes more quickly... First morning waking up without the person's always a bit rough. But...90 days or so. Wishing unseasonably warm weather for your destination location, HoH. All will be well PepperPots and Koko0--have fun! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Just a heads up: If you ever want to send flowers in Germany, don't use Aquarelle.de The order was placed on 25th Feb., with plenty of time to organize everything. It wasn't delivered today, the day that it all mattered. Got this lovely response from them, after inquiring if the item was delivered as promised: " No, I'm so sorry and DHL has not come up with an explanation so far. Please accept our most sincere apologies for this already. I'll contact you again on Monday." Well, Monday, these flowers + chocolates won't mean anything. Thank you Aquarelle. Aww, sorry to hear this. Just FYI, though, to many women, flowers NEVER 'don't mean anything'. Even if the florist mucks up and sends them late. It's the thought that counts. Your girl might see things the same way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Another Mar visit didn't pan out with our work schedules. But there will be 2 in April! Just a few (4 weeks) to go. I just want to move already!! Patience is tough, but I'm glad we want to be smart about it and plan/save for the move. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I´m at his at the moment until next week 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I´m at his at the moment until next week Have fun!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I've got a month to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Thank you I´m enjoying being lazy while he´s at work today and tomorrow, 3pm and not dressed yet! It´s been a mad busy few weeks/ months for me, and a couple of weeks frantic organising of things at home for while I´m away, so I really needed a break Have fun!!! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Thank you I´m enjoying being lazy while he´s at work today and tomorrow, 3pm and not dressed yet! It´s been a mad busy few weeks/ months for me, and a couple of weeks frantic organising of things at home for while I´m away, so I really needed a break When I'm at home all day, I never dress. Fortunately the bf likes my nighties. :laugh: 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dazedandconfused17 Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 21 more days just spent an amazing week together since we both had spring break. Hopefully these next 3 weeks fly by!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Just got back from a long weekend with him-- he came in to visit, and then I ended up flying back with him for a job interview. We have worked things out, as far as I can tell. Now it's 58 days until we "close the distance," though really it will just be that we're back in the same state-- the closest we'll be able to get is 60 miles away for a couple of months, and then 40 (possibly 200 in the worst case scenario). But it's better than 1200! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 66 days yet here. And the most difficult part is that I can't focus on anything besides this. Best regards You can do it! Always keep in mind that it could be worse. And you have this countdown to hold on to and that's great. Just think about all the wonderful things you'll be doing once you are with your SO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 First morning waking up without the person's always a bit rough. But...90 days or so. ! I feel you... A few days after he's gone I always wake up in the middle of the night reaching out for him with my eyes closed, only to notice that the side he slept on is cold. For one second I wonder where he is then I realise that he's not there... Ugh.. But at least it's just a temporary absence. That's what comforts me a little 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 I don't like when that happens Lovely pic of you both I feel you... A few days after he's gone I always wake up in the middle of the night reaching out for him with my eyes closed, only to notice that the side he slept on is cold. For one second I wonder where he is then I realise that he's not there... Ugh.. But at least it's just a temporary absence. That's what comforts me a little Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 So glad to hear you are working things out Just got back from a long weekend with him-- he came in to visit, and then I ended up flying back with him for a job interview. We have worked things out, as far as I can tell. Now it's 58 days until we "close the distance," though really it will just be that we're back in the same state-- the closest we'll be able to get is 60 miles away for a couple of months, and then 40 (possibly 200 in the worst case scenario). But it's better than 1200! Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 So glad to hear you are working things out I've admitted that I'm scared and he's admitted he's got a ton of anxiety and is afraid of what will happen to me if it doesn't work out. We've both agreed to go see a counselor, separately. I had decided not to bring it up but then I got tipsy at dinner... At least we talked it through, and we are back on the same page: going through wity the move is serious and terrifying, but we want to be together andvwe want it to work out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Life'sGood Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Oh gosh. 29 more days. Finally the front number is decreasing! I have been feeling all insecure lately, mostly because of our busy schedule, we hardly get to talk to each other but earlier, I get to talk to him for an hour. Then I feel so much better. Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 I've admitted that I'm scared and he's admitted he's got a ton of anxiety and is afraid of what will happen to me if it doesn't work out. We've both agreed to go see a counselor, separately. I had decided not to bring it up but then I got tipsy at dinner... At least we talked it through, and we are back on the same page: going through wity the move is serious and terrifying, but we want to be together andvwe want it to work out. Sorry, I may have missed this/forgot when I read this. But are you moving to a different state to be with him or a different Country? I think it's precious that he is very concerned of your overall well being. I'm just curious though, when you both decided to move, was marriage on the tables? My BF and I have just started planning for us to close the distance. We want to have our own place together (bought) before I get there. I have real estate in my city and he has a bachelor pad of his own, but not suitable for 2. Since we would be half owners of the properties that we both own on our own, we decided that we wanted to go this route of getting ourselves set up, getting engaged, and me officially moving there. Just curious about the commitment thing. My BF said to me when we first started dating that he didn't expect me to move to another country to be with someone without that commitment, so it was always a given. When we're ready for that sort of thing, that's when we will progress our relationship. I would mention that we see each other quite often, so that could make a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Cherry-- I'm moving across the country, 1200 miles. We've been discussing and planning marriage (he defines us as "practically engaged" and I've been telling potential employers I'm moving to be with my fiancee so they don't freak out and think I'm moving for some boy I like, you know? and also because it's more accurate than "boyfriend"), and I will be living with his mother for the first two months I'm there. I also think it's nice that he's concerned, but he is an overanalyzer and instead of this being a back-of-the-mind consideration, it's a major stresser for him. I also think that having a commitment is a necessity before you move. I may not have a ring, but we both intend for that to happen and it has been heavily discussed. When are you planning to move? For the sake of thread continuity, 56 days! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Cherry-- I'm moving across the country, 1200 miles. We've been discussing and planning marriage (he defines us as "practically engaged" and I've been telling potential employers I'm moving to be with my fiancee so they don't freak out and think I'm moving for some boy I like, you know? and also because it's more accurate than "boyfriend"), and I will be living with his mother for the first two months I'm there. I also think it's nice that he's concerned, but he is an overanalyzer and instead of this being a back-of-the-mind consideration, it's a major stresser for him. I also think that having a commitment is a necessity before you move. I may not have a ring, but we both intend for that to happen and it has been heavily discussed. When are you planning to move? For the sake of thread continuity, 56 days! That's really great. I don't know, a part of me feels that it's better to have an over analyzer/realist as your partner. My ex was more aloof to things like this and it was hard to progress the relationship. My BF/future fiancé is also a slight overanalyzer and realist but it makes me feel more at ease that we're heavily discussing this just like yours. I've read over and over on this forum and other boards that those in LDR don't discuss it enough. So I'm so happy for you that he's just as proactive as well. My BF and I have discussed 2014... we want to secure a home first because his place is not big enough for the both of us. He doesn't feel like "asking" me to move (which he doesn't, he's never once asked me or pressured me but it we've always discussed and have come to the conclusion that I would move together - maybe more me, but my career is much more flexible) is the right thing, unless he is set up well enough to have a wife in his home. I get that - he wants to take care of me and make sure that I am not stressed by our living situation on top of being in a new country/finding work etc. We are actively looking (him more than me, he sends me videos when he goes to open houses) and hope to buy by the end of the year. I'll be living with him by the end of 2014 if all the visa work goes through fairly smoothly. We will be going through the fiancé visa route, so it should be around 10 months or less from when we buy our house. I have 2 other friends who are doing the same. One of them had their application processed in Dec and she was granted her K1 visa only 2 months later and is now married. She is married to someone in the army so I wonder if that has anything to do with it... Another friend of mine (male) applied roughly around the same time and has yet to be approved. So I'll keep y'all in the loop once we're at the point where we're ready to apply! I see him in 3 weeks! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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