don_guyus Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 A friend of mine set me up on a date with an Indian girl. I was told to try to be sensitive to her culture, so I started out by bringing her to the Museum, where they had all these cool Indian things like Teepees, bow and arrows, totem poles and other Indian stuff. Afterwards, I brought her out to dinner to a steak house. I was a bit surprised when we got there that she didn’t eat beef for religious reasons. When I told her I could ask if they had buffalo burgers, she told me she was a vegetarian. It didn’t look like my choice of restaurants was the best. I talked to her about a trip I took to South Dakota and how I saw Custer’s last stand and Wounded Knee, which she had never seen. I told her she should see these sights. I said it would be like a pilgrimage for her. I was surprised that she didn’t seem to know anything about these sights nor seemed particularly interested in seeing them. I figured history was not her strong point, so I decided to shift the conversation to modern day events. I talked about Indian gambling casinos and how they can help her people by bringing money into the reservations. She got kind of angry at that point and said that these casinos had nothing to do with her people. I realized I said something insensitive, but wasn’t sure what. I asked her if it was because her people were from a different tribe than the Indians running the casino. It was then that I was informed that she wasn’t a Native American Indian, but an Indian from India. They aren’t exactly the same. She asked in a sarcastic tone if I was a Philistine. I wasn’t sure what she meant, but I felt things were going south fast. It went downhill from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 I think you need to be more sensitive to people's humanity than to their culture. Even if this lady had been an American Indian, your preoccupation with her ethnicity would have been totally inappropriate. It's not rocket science to look at a person's features and tell whether they are American Indian...or from India. In the future, when you take ladies out treat them with kindness and respect without patronizing them. The way you conducted yourself was absolutely bizarre. Why don't you think enough of yourself to let your dates enjoy you for you...and not for what you do to bust your butt to indulge them in stuff they're probably sick of...that is, if you're correct about their ethnicity??? Thanks for the laugh, though!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Arcane Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 I think Ghandi was a Cherokee Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 Hi there, Maybe you're young and/or just new to the whole dating scene..and if so, that's just fine...but in the future, when you ask a girl out on a date, focus on her as a person, not her ethnic background. Geez, my background is Ukrainian and if some guy asked me out and all he could talk about was perogies and cabbage rolls and pysanka (those nicely painted easter eggs) and the old country and all that, I'd think he was a fruitcake. It's one thing to be sensitive to someone's ethnic background.......but if it becomes the sole focus of everything you say to them or bring up in conversation, it becomes offensive. I can see why she was unimpressed, and likely a little creeped out and feeling like a bit of a guinea pig. Are you normally so preoccupied with a girl's ethnicity? Link to post Share on other sites
Arcane Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 I may be wrong, but I'm pretty sure this was supposed to be a joke. Link to post Share on other sites
don_guyus Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 Well, it's not like this was all I talked about. I only included what was relevent to the blunder I made. I'm on the rebound after loosing my girlfriend, which is another disaster story. Perhaps I'm just trying to hard. Link to post Share on other sites
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