She Cheated On Me

[underpants]

Dam she called me today on her way on vacation and said she loves me and wants me. She said she wants to go to relationship counseling and she said there would be no more talking to guys and going out with guy friends. She said she would call the guy that she cheated on me with and tell him not to contact her anymore in front of me on speaker phone. I told her IF we get back together in the future it is going to be very hard and things arent going to be easy and she said she is willing to do whatever it takes and she knows I will be hard on her.

 

She said she made a mistake and feels so ashamed for it that she feels horrible. We really had a pretty good relationship until this all unfolded 5 weeks ago. I know everyone will say....she is a slut, drop her and move on, and I always have in the past when this happened but I really feel she is different.

 

In out relationship I definetly made some mistakes of my own. Sometimes we hardly seen eachother at all, I was distant, didnt wanna talk about the future, became very comfortable in the relationship. She told me she felt like a doormat and that I was using her she felt. Right now she is driving to Florida with her two kids and she asked me If I wanted to go months earlier.... I said no, and I really never gave her a good reason. I could have gotten off work easily and went with her and I know it would have been fun. I know she cheated on me and ther is no excuse for it but I do know I made alot of big mistakes with her and I didnt treat her like I should have.

 

Well,

 

I will give her credit for willing to go to counceling. Why don't you look up some accredited couples/pre marriage counselors and set up an appointment next week when she returns. Whether you two work it out or not some type of counseling should prove beneficial to you both. Don't you think? Taking the initiative to make the appointment will show her that you are invested. Then it will be up to her to go with you.

 

It is one thing to say you will do anything and quite another to put forth the actions. Even if she does not go you can still go. Never too late to learn good relationship/communication skills. That is something you can use in this relationship or a future one.

 

If you speak to her again let her know that you think the counceling is a good idea, that you have arranged an appointment and that you two can talk when you get back. Then ...let her miss you some.

 

Good luck Darb.

[notgoodatthis]

I seriously doubt you have the whole story. She has been playing you. Find somebody else who can respect you because she certainly does not. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Get checked for std's also.

 

Yeah seriously, get checked. My girl did something like this to me and ended up with Herpes. Lucky for me, i never had sex with her after the cheating incident.

[darb]

I went and got tested for all STDs and everything else so that is taken care of. She said it wasnt unprotected sex and she was tested a week later but I wanted to make sure for myself. She wants to go to couples counseling and wants me back and I still dont know what I am going to do. I made an appointment for next week and we are not speaking until then. She said she will be there but I am still not sure if I want to give her another chance and if I will be there but I made the appointment anyway and I am going to give myself this week to think alot about things.

 

Im trying my best to deal with this. I really thought this woman was different and I thought I found the one. I am still just shocked this happend with her of all people.... She was cheated on by her ex and I heard that sob story a ton! and I was cheated on with my ex gf and she knew how I felt about cheaters and I cant believe she did this to me.

 

I wanna thank everyone for all the responses and trying to help me and listen to me..... it helps ease the pain.

[twice_shy]

I went and got tested for all STDs and everything else so that is taken care of. She said it wasnt unprotected sex and she was tested a week later but I wanted to make sure for myself. She wants to go to couples counseling and wants me back and I still dont know what I am going to do. I made an appointment for next week and we are not speaking until then. She said she will be there but I am still not sure if I want to give her another chance and if I will be there but I made the appointment anyway and I am going to give myself this week to think alot about things.

 

Im trying my best to deal with this. I really thought this woman was different and I thought I found the one. I am still just shocked this happend with her of all people.... She was cheated on by her ex and I heard that sob story a ton! and I was cheated on with my ex gf and she knew how I felt about cheaters and I cant believe she did this to me.

 

I wanna thank everyone for all the responses and trying to help me and listen to me..... it helps ease the pain.

 

My man, there are great women out there. Unfortunately she aint one of them.

 

I really urge you to go out into the world and find one. You will be a happier man and will not regret leaving a cheater in the dust.