BabyGurl08 Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 yrs and within that time he has done things to cause me not to trust him. I guess that may be the reason why I feel like this now. Well I need advice from ladies and gentlemen. We recently went to a strip club and he had a stripper give me a lap dance. This was the first time that I've ever been to a strip club so he said he wanted me to have a lap dance. After the stripper was done she went on stage and he decided to go a give her money. She requested for him to put the money in his mouth a grabbed it with her breast. Once I saw that I go pissed and left but I dont know if I am right for being angry or if I should let it go. He said that I got a lap dance and I shouldnt be upset! Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 Well you didn't complain when she gave you a lapdance and you agreed to it. So you really can't complain about the way he gave her the money. but this is why I will always say strip clubs and committed relationships don't mix. Link to post Share on other sites
Pikaia Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 What exactly has he done to make you not trust him? I don't see anything wrong with committed relationships going to strip clubs. My boyfriend and I do it once in a while. You have to remember that if you DO agree to go to a strip club, that you might as well agree to let both parties enjoy themselves. You did get a lap dance, so your boyfriend has every right to have a little fun too. If you don't feel alright with it, don't go to strip clubs anymore and request your boyfriend do the same. They certainly aren't for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Siphon9a Posted March 24, 2008 Share Posted March 24, 2008 I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 yrs and within that time he has done things to cause me not to trust him. I guess that may be the reason why I feel like this now. Well I need advice from ladies and gentlemen. We recently went to a strip club and he had a stripper give me a lap dance. This was the first time that I've ever been to a strip club so he said he wanted me to have a lap dance. After the stripper was done she went on stage and he decided to go a give her money. She requested for him to put the money in his mouth a grabbed it with her breast. Once I saw that I go pissed and left but I dont know if I am right for being angry or if I should let it go. He said that I got a lap dance and I shouldnt be upset! Maybe I'm just the "nice guy role" but I wouldn't have even went up to the stage like that. I've been to clubs with and without girls I've dated and to be honest, they're kinda boring. Besides why even go to a place that will end up stirring up unncessary drama in a realtionship. I tell you the more I read on this site the more I'm learning about people and how messed up life really is. Geez Link to post Share on other sites
Author BabyGurl08 Posted March 24, 2008 Author Share Posted March 24, 2008 Well the things that he has done to cause me not to trust him is going online and stating that he is single. He has given women his phone number in the past. He had many profiles online (myspace, migente, blackplanet.com) and stated that he was single. This all has stirred up a lot of emotions within me that has me confused. The reason I chose to go with him to the strip club was to make him happy and I felt that I would rather be there than him go on his own. Regardless this whole situation started to make me think that he has no respect for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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