notgoodatthis Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 I posted this in another area and someone suggested I would get more exposure in this area. I apologize in advance to those who already responded. I appreciate your honest thoughts. Ok, she cheated on me when she went on a cruise. When she came home, she dumped me for the guy. I guess things didn't work out so she came back into my life wanting another chance. I was so tempted until she told me she got Herpes from the guy. I have been trying to come to grips with the situation because I can tell she is sorry and has changed. What do you think? It's one thing to date someone with Herpes but it's another to take someone back to got it while cheating on that person. Believe me, I have given this considerable thought over the last couple of months Link to post Share on other sites
Siphon9a Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 I posted this in another area and someone suggested I would get more exposure in this area. I apologize in advance to those who already responded. I appreciate your honest thoughts. Ok, she cheated on me when she went on a cruise. When she came home, she dumped me for the guy. I guess things didn't work out so she came back into my life wanting another chance. I was so tempted until she told me she got Herpes from the guy. I have been trying to come to grips with the situation because I can tell she is sorry and has changed. What do you think? It's one thing to date someone with Herpes but it's another to take someone back to got it while cheating on that person. Believe me, I have given this considerable thought over the last couple of months I don't know about you but in a situation like this, I'd just cut my losses. She cheated and left you for the guy. Now she's coming back to her comfort zone so she can feel secure. Stand up for yourself and find someone that will respect you as a person and as a person in a committed relationship. She has shown you the most disrespect a person can by cheating and then leaving you for the guy only to come crawling back, not to mention with something you can't wash off. Find someone trustworthy and will care for you the way you care for her. Obviously you care for her if your giving thought into taking her back. There;s a good girl out there that would love for a guy to feel that strongly about her. Your ex took you for granted. That's her bad and now she should have to live with the consequences of her disrepect towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 you better stay away from this person. She cheated and got Herpes while at it. Bounce honey! Bounce now while you can!! Not worth getting sick. Link to post Share on other sites
Legend Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 When you cheat, you get infected. She's scum, don't let her make you think twice. Link to post Share on other sites
pinkrazr Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 I hope i dont get a ton of hate responses from this. But what I am going to say, is this girl cheated on you. she knew what she was doing, she didnt care much except for that moment. Now it was crushed for her. its over. so now she pulls the "i'm sorry, i miss you by the way i have herpes take me back" crap. now... wrong with this... she did it, she knew it, then left you for him. stupid. it doesnt work out, so she thinks she can pull the "i made a mistake" line. stupid. she wanted her cake and to eat it too. and obviously is a great manipulator if your willing to take her back after she made the "mistake of leaving you for someone else". dont be stupid. she thought she can do whatever, for however it can last. it didnt. so she knew she can get you back to her. till the next guy comes along so she can pull the same "mistake". it's never a mistake, not when she leaves you for someone else. dont put your health in place of love. and in-curable infection that is painful and costs alot of money to keep at bay. and when shes gone again, you still have it. forever. Shes nto worth it. at all. you need someone that respects you the way you respect them. Please dont hurt yourself emotionally and psychically with this! Link to post Share on other sites
Siphon9a Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 I hope i dont get a ton of hate responses from this. But what I am going to say, is this girl cheated on you. she knew what she was doing, she didnt care much except for that moment. Now it was crushed for her. its over. so now she pulls the "i'm sorry, i miss you by the way i have herpes take me back" crap. now... wrong with this... she did it, she knew it, then left you for him. stupid. it doesnt work out, so she thinks she can pull the "i made a mistake" line. stupid. she wanted her cake and to eat it too. and obviously is a great manipulator if your willing to take her back after she made the "mistake of leaving you for someone else". dont be stupid. she thought she can do whatever, for however it can last. it didnt. so she knew she can get you back to her. till the next guy comes along so she can pull the same "mistake". it's never a mistake, not when she leaves you for someone else. dont put your health in place of love. and in-curable infection that is painful and costs alot of money to keep at bay. and when shes gone again, you still have it. forever. Shes nto worth it. at all. you need someone that respects you the way you respect them. Please dont hurt yourself emotionally and psychically with this! As cliche as it sounds even Marilyn Manson had it right in one of his songs. "I'm not in love, but I'm gonna **** you, till somebody better comes along." Just leave her be and find someone who will respect you. Link to post Share on other sites
Covonia Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 This is another sign that Karma exists, just move on and tell her where to get off. Link to post Share on other sites
shanny Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 You were her back up plan. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notgoodatthis Posted March 26, 2008 Author Share Posted March 26, 2008 I appreciate each and every post. Thanks for being honest. Every time I read a response, I see things in a whole new light. Keep it coming! Link to post Share on other sites
Melvll Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 Let her go. Let this be a life lesson for her.. Its going to be rough, hard but really she took you for granted.. you deserve so much better. Link to post Share on other sites
pinkrazr Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 Hang in there notgood, I really hope you took the advice. These forums have helped me and I can speak for most of us on here with everyones real responses. You sound like such a sweet person. keep me posted, If things get ugly you know we're all here for eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 Dump her and tell her karma's a female dog. Move on with your life knowing full well you are healthy and you plan to stay that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Pikaia Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 Yeah, I would not let her come back into your life. 99% of the time, cheating is a relationship killer. Very few can bounce back, due to most cheaters always being cheaters. Secondly, she has herpes. Don't put your health at risk. This is her problem now and you need to protect yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 This is another sign that Karma exists, just move on and tell her where to get off. Word!! it's like burn by trial. Good for the cheater, can't even lie about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 There's no way I can disagree with anyone on this Thread so far! Drop the chic, or whatever she is! If she cheated once, she'll do it again, maybe next time it will be AIDS! DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER! EEEEWWWW!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
pinkrazr Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 Darth totally has a point. Might I add, she found out she had herpes, but lets hope shes not walkin around with somethin else thats dormant and hasn't been caught. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 I posted this in another area and someone suggested I would get more exposure in this area. I apologize in advance to those who already responded. I appreciate your honest thoughts. Ok, she cheated on me when she went on a cruise. When she came home, she dumped me for the guy. I guess things didn't work out so she came back into my life wanting another chance. I was so tempted until she told me she got Herpes from the guy. I have been trying to come to grips with the situation because I can tell she is sorry and has changed. What do you think? It's one thing to date someone with Herpes but it's another to take someone back to got it while cheating on that person. Believe me, I have given this considerable thought over the last couple of months Of course she is sorry. She has herpes. Her chances in the dating world just hit the skids. Dude, she cheated on you and has herpes. I'd be so dissappointed in you if you took her back. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 you better stay away from this person. She cheated and got Herpes while at it. Bounce honey! Bounce now while you can!! Not worth getting sick. And how does he know she won't give him HIV later on down the road? Whats to say she doens't have it now? Link to post Share on other sites
zicke Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 Of course she is sorry. She has herpes. Her chances in the dating world just hit the skids. Dude, she cheated on you and has herpes. I'd be so dissappointed in you if you took her back. Hear hear! She is SOL right now in the dating world...a cheater with herpes???? Karma! God, if only I could have had that kind of instant karma! What the Universe is telling you with this situation is that she has some bad **** she needs to make up for, and she ain't doing it...this is your "get outta jail free" card..take it. Do not work things out with her and get herpes..ugh. I now reaffirm my belief in karma. Link to post Share on other sites
MimiMe Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 (edited) And how does he know she won't give him HIV later on down the road? Whats to say she doens't have it now? YES!!! That's some B*ll****! Drop that loser. AND if I was you I'll put her ass on blast!!! Go to one of those websites where you get to expose your ex and tell her dirt. YOu never know, you may be saving humanity!!! Edited March 28, 2008 by MimiMe Link to post Share on other sites
DanielMadr Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 She cheated because she doesnt respect you. Do you really think she will respect you more after forgiving her? Im not sure it works like that. Actually I believe it will plant even more doubts in her mind and in yours too for the future. Look like you squirm now. Some decisions are painful but choosing a life partner should evoke pleasant thoughts, shouldnt it? I strongly suggest not to play Captain Save a Ho and move on. Cheating should be a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 She cheated because she doesnt respect you. Do you really think she will respect you more after forgiving her? Im not sure it works like that. Actually I believe it will plant even more doubts in her mind and in yours too for the future. Look like you squirm now. Some decisions are painful but choosing a life partner should evoke pleasant thoughts, shouldnt it? I strongly suggest not to play Captain Save a Ho and move on. Cheating should be a deal breaker. Daniel, I usually don't agree wit ya, but on this I do 100%!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author notgoodatthis Posted March 29, 2008 Author Share Posted March 29, 2008 Thanks for these awesome responses. It's pretty much unanimous. To think a week ago i was actually giving thought to taking the biatch back. No f-ing way now. Link to post Share on other sites
DetroitGirl Posted March 29, 2008 Share Posted March 29, 2008 Two words -- bub-bye! Dude you are crazy to even think of going back that way. Did it ever cross you mind that she is aware of how much you loved her and would take her back? Who else is going to be "understanding" enough of her situation? Nobody! So why should you? Let it go or else you get something that you can't let go. She is beyond nasty. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 29, 2008 Share Posted March 29, 2008 Thanks for these awesome responses. It's pretty much unanimous. To think a week ago i was actually giving thought to taking the biatch back. No f-ing way now. There's no pretty much on this one, EVERYONE agrees to for you to drop this chic HARD! She's already out of the dating scene, um, why should you be too? The only honorable thing she did was tell you that she got Herps from cheating, and I'm surprised that she even bothered to tell you that much! RRRRRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MAN! RRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eek::eek::eek::eek: Link to post Share on other sites
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