cttcndy6969 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 what would be considered a horrible age gap? I like this guy at work and he's about 32 and I'm only 21 soon to be 22. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 That's not at all too much!! See you two are at about the same maturity level, even though he is 10 yrs older than you. It takes that long for guys to catch up. GO for it, he's not too old. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 The notion that men do not mature as fast as women is only valid in the teen years. General maturity is pretty much equivalent once you are out of the teenage influence. Obviously it is a spectrum, but both genders are distributed across a maturity scale. Now I know....some of you will complain that guys are immature at age XX. Such a blanket statement is simplistic. It is a matter of the guys you MEET, not all men at that point. There are notably mature people at every age (both male and female) as well as notably immature people. Women do not possess any more or less inherent maturity. A woman in her early 20s might complain that she meets nothing but immature guys. To compensate, she seeks older men. There are plenty of mature men at any given peer level. If she isn't finding them, then there's really one problem: her. She is the only constant. The solution of seeking older men inevitably leads to another problem....because now she is after men who are immature for their age. (This is hypothetical and general, not necessarily specific to your question) I would be concerned about a 32-year-old man that found himself on par with a 21-year-old woman. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Originally posted by cttcndy6969 what would be considered a horrible age gap? It depends on who you ask. Everyone has a different view and for different reasons. What would YOU consider a horrible age gap? Link to post Share on other sites
Heidi2 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 I feel that after one reaches their adult years, 18+ then what one does and chooses to do with there life is entirely up to them. In terms of dating or seeing someone of a 10 year age group or perhaps even older is definately okay. Who cares if someone finds this out.. and decides to make comments.. When you two are with each other.. and sparks fly on both wires, that's all that should matter!!! Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 15, 2003 Share Posted July 15, 2003 I am going to have to agree with Heidi and Ryan on this one... It is very much an individual thing. As long as you are both are able to communicate well, and enjoy each other's company in all respects, then there is no real issue. Nonetheless, you should ask yourself if you are willing to put up with some situations/issues that you both MIGHT encounter: 1. Realize that you both will have unique life experiences. Can this hamper communication ? 2. Obvious differences will exist in terms of friendship circles. You are both different ages, therefore, your friends will tend to be as well. Will this cause problems ? 3. Physical changes will be more pronounced as the older person ages even more. Will this be a stumbling block to your happiness? 4. Society can be unforgiving of anything it considers atypical. If you feel stares, whispers behind both your backs, etc., will this be a problem for you or him? Be prepared to answer some possible unfair and unfeeling questions from people who tend to make your life their business. Nevertheless, if these are not insumountable issues for you both, then go to it, and be happy together. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted July 16, 2003 Share Posted July 16, 2003 I'm 35 and my girlfriend is 25. We just bought a home and started a new life together. This is the most mature, supportive, stable, and emotionally rewarding relationship either of us have ever been in. It works for some. Link to post Share on other sites
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