Michelle0607 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 Ok, I've never done this before, so be patient. I have a huge crush (for lack of a better word) on my temporary boss. I say temporary, because in August, I will be changing shifts, and he will no longer be technically my boss. Our company has a no-dating policy between management and employees, but it has been broken before. His position title is Lead, it is also a title I held til this past April when the department I was over was shut down due to the economy. But if we get past all that, this is my side of the story. I was attracted to "Ryan" from the moment I saw him (FYI, he's 29 and I'm 24), which was about two years ago. We've seen each other on an off at work, usually at management meetings/training sessions. At our Christmas party last year, I kinda got the feeling that he was checking me out. Well, I'm currently in his department filling in for an employee on medical leave. And I've had a amazing time. Don't get me wrong, I do my work and do it well. And I don't call "Ryan" over every time something goes wrong. In fact, I'm NOT chasing him like a little school girl. But I have noticed that he will come over and talk to me about some common interests we have. And he's always trying to make me smile and laugh. And in fact, he'll pick "fights" with me just to get me riled up. And I do the same with him. He told me the other day that I needed to smile more and not look so serious (the job is pretty stressful). Then he started calling me Cranky-butt (in addition to Little Momma, which is another favorite nickname of his). When he made me a new form to use for record keeping, he asked me how I like it. When I told him it was fine, he said "Come on, you can do better then that, how about "Yeah, Ryan, what a great job." Like he was seeking encouragement from me. And I'm pretty sure he knows I like him. If he can't tell from the way I act, I made a mistake last year of telling a fellow co-worker that I thought he was cute. And she can't keep a secret to save her soul. So I've been reading all this advice on how to attract a man, how to hold his attention, how to flirt with a man, etc. So I'm working on getting something started. I just think he is amazing. He's good looking, very nice, athletic, gorgeous eyes, and we have common interests. Also, he's met my sister and my mother before and gets along with both of them. My mom ADORES him So basically, I just want y'alls opinion. Is he interested (or do you need more info)? Should I let him know I'm interested? Should I leave it alone because we work together (of course, I would be willing to leave if anything serious were to come of us). Thank you in advance to anyone who replies. I'm not really sure what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 If he's that great, I say screw the company....let him know you'd like to get to know him better away from the office, ask him out, and invite top management to come along and watch!!! Invite us to the wedding. I'm excited as hell for you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 15, 2003 Share Posted July 15, 2003 Just to "temper" and add to what Tony said a little... Just do it Michelle. By that I mean don't hesitate, don't agonize, don't wait for him to initiate, just DON'T. Ask him. It is true that these "company policies" are put there for a reason. However, if you are both feeling that "certain something" that cannot be denied nor ignored, you OWE it to each other to explore things. With so many people in the world striving after the wrong things in life, it is important that we remain true to what is key. Every person's true desire in this world should be first of all to love God, but a close second is to love each other. If you have found the person that you feel you can love unconditionally, and he feels the same...how huge a price it would be to have you both lose that chance for happiness. Hurry up, seize the moment, BUT take your time to really know each other. Looks are great, and we are all attracted to what we see on the surface, but more important is the "substance" between a couple. If it is there as well, the payoff will be tremendous. Keep us informed hunn. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
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