I know it my be wrong but what can i do

[NoraRose]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I really don’t know how to start so try to bear with me at first. I’m 20 years old and I have a 23 year old friend who is married. We meet through work about a year ago and we got along most of the time when we first started working together and eventually became friends. After four months of working together his wife got a promotion and they move about three hours away. We stated in touch when he left, he would call and vent to me, I vent to him, and we would just let each other know how we are doing. I saw him every once in a while when he would come to town to do some business or visit family. The last few months we have been talking a little bit more and the last month he has come out twice and we have gone to dinner and hung out( without his wife, whom I new of in high school but never meet) and the last two weeks have talked and text almost every day. Even though I have been in denial since about December I finally am able to admit to myself that I am totally head over heels for him. We have even started giving each other hugs and ending text with xoxo. He has been telling me how much he likes me, how cute I am, and that I make him smile. I know his relationship with his wife is not well and hasten been for about two years now. When I first meet him, him and his wife had been separated for six months and didn’t get back together till a month after I meet him. They have a son which seems to be the reason he stays with her. Since I have meet him I have always tried to give him good advice like try marriage counseling, and why not try taking her out and make it like it was when they first meet, What do you think is good for your soon, you know trying to be the good friend, but now I cant stand being the good friend, I am so tired of seeing him miserable and unhappy and we have fun together and share a lot of the same interest and enjoy our differences. I want to tell him how I feel because now I’m miserable and cant handle being all sweet and friendly when I see him or talk to him because all I want to do is hold his hand and tell him how cute and wonderful I think he is (which I have been restraining myself from doing) and I really do. I think he is smart, creative, and I really can’t find anything I don’t except or like about him. I want him to know so either I have to stop talking to him because he really wants his relationship to work and I can’t be that good friend anymore. Some words of comfort I guess is what I’m looking for, but any comment my help me snap into reality or encourage me to do the right thing whatever that is. [/FONT][FONT=Wingdings][FONT=Wingdings]L[/FONT][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE]

[Bryanp]

Ask yourself how you would feel if you were his wife?

[zicke]

You can grow up and realize that every man isn't open to flirtation...what he does with you he will do to you. Some learn the lesson early, some never learn that lesson.

 

Leave him alone, you are not special.