Ron12621 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Hi, Need some advice on breaking up. I know this is probably easier than I think but the idea of damaging someone emotionally really bothers me regardless of how short and how deep the relationship went. I dated this woman for about a week and I had dinner at her place and we kissed a bit. We DID NOT engage in any sexual activities. I've met someone that I feel more compatible with and want to date her instead - The gal I'd rather not date any more continues to call me. How should I end it with her gently ? We never engaged in any activites but I still some how feel guilty. Would appreciate anyone's advice here, she's a good gal and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 I think it is worse if you don’t do anything. It will hurt either way but I think its best you do in as soon as possible if you have NO intention to carrying anything thought with her. Believe it or not SHE WILL get over it, and SHE WILL meet someone else. It might be hard for her initially as it is for any of use who get dumped BUT I’d much prefer someone hurt me by being honest than by someone who doesn’t have the courage to tell me the truth! You know what’s right, You know what you need to do, so DO IT! Good Luck ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Just tell her. It's great that you're sensitive enough to recognize that her feelings are likely to be hurt, given that she's showing her interest by calling you. But to let that stand in the way of being upfront with her indicates that you don't think she can handle the truth. You're probably not going to destroy her world by telling her that you don't want to continue seeing her. She'll be disappointed and perhaps a bit hurt. Embarrassed too. But that's how it goes, and a mature adult can handle those things. The longer you hold off the longer you allow her to continue calling you with the mistaken impression that there's potential between the two of you. More time to further embarrass herself, more of her time and attention wasted on you when she could be looking elsewhere for the right guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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