somedude81 Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 (edited) There is a girl in one of my classes that I think is dating material. This is not the same girl that I’ve talked about in my other thread. I have spoken to her on occasion during class but it’s only very minor small talk, very superficial stuff. There are a couple of problems. 1. She is almost always with her girlfriend. I have talked to both of them on occasion but it’s hard to get a girls attention that you don’t really know when she has her friend for company. 2. I don’t know her name and I doubt she knows mine. We’ve been in class a together for a few months and I messed up by not doing a name exchange. I think her name is Kyra or Kira or Kera. I’ve heard her friends saying it, but I never paid that much attention because I thought it would be creepy for me to start calling her by name when she never gave it to me and she doesn’t know mine. 3. I think she may have a boyfriend. I’ve heard her talk about a guy before who was driving or is her ride but I don’t know what the relationship is or if there is just one dude. What is the best course of action to take? I figure I have several options. 1. I could ask her friend if the other girl is single. This seems to be the safest choice. 2. I could ask her if she has a boyfriend, or I could wait till I hear them talking then if she mentions the dude I can ask if he is her boyfriend. 3. I could just ask her out or for her number. This is my least favorite choice because it exposes my interest, and faces me with possible rejection. I fear that things will get very awkward once a girl knows that I am interested and she declines. As for this girl, she is cute, smart and kind of wacky. She has a pin on her bag that says, “I know where my clitoris is.” BTW I'm mostly interested in hearing the female point of view. Edited March 30, 2008 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 Is this another trick? What did the guys at SS tell you to do? Ok, in all seriousness, I don't like any of your choices. What I would respond to as a woman is this: "Hey, I'm SomDude (insert your name of course) what's yours? Kara? What a nice name, want to go grab a coffee with me at soandso cafe after class some time?" That's it. That's all you have to do. You have nothing to lose and you'll find out right away if she has a b/f or not. And this better not be another fake post! Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 30, 2008 Author Share Posted March 30, 2008 Nope don't worry this isn't a fake post. Your answer sounds really good. So it's no problem that we've "known" each other a few months? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 Nope don't worry this isn't a fake post. Your answer sounds really good. So it's no problem that we've "known" each other a few months? Not only is that not a problem but it works in your favor. I'd actually mention that. Say something like: We've been in class for (insert how long) and we've never really gotten to know each other. Want to go for a cup of coffee after class some time? Maybe we can go over suchandsuch assignment?" I'm just trying to give you ideas. Just be natural and calm. That's what I would respond to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 30, 2008 Author Share Posted March 30, 2008 Cool thanks I'm going to try a combination of them on Monday. Natural and calm. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 Cool thanks I'm going to try a combination of them on Monday. Natural and calm. You might be nervous but don't show it. And if she turns you down say, Ok, sorry you can't make it..maybe some other time. Just be really casual like you ask girls out all the time..no biggie. Will you come back and tell us how it went? Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 30, 2008 Author Share Posted March 30, 2008 You might be nervous but don't show it. And if she turns you down say, Ok, sorry you can't make it..maybe some other time. Just be really casual like you ask girls out all the time..no biggie. Will you come back and tell us how it went? Heh no doubt I'll be nervous. I just have to remember calm and natural. As for me coming back and telling you how it went. Only if I have the guts to go through with it Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 Heh no doubt I'll be nervous. I just have to remember calm and natural. As for me coming back and telling you how it went. Only if I have the guts to go through with it Don't be silly. What have you got to lose? You'll regret it if you don't and you'll always wonder. Plus, the more you ask out, I hear, the easier it gets. Just do it! I expect you to come back here and tell us how it went. Oh and you're welcome. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 I agree with Touche. It will be in your favour that she doesn't see as a complete stranger. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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