doc555 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 I have been dating this girl for about 3 years. We moved in with each other. And now I have moved out. We were living with each other for about 2 years. The first year she wanted to get married and I was all excited. Then the second year she started acting different. She seemed to be getting upset and edgy and she wanted me to take the money from the ring and get it back. So I did and we were going to get help. Well, I didn't get the help she asked for. I was scared and didn't discuss the problems she was addressing. She tells her friends that she still cares about me and would love to be friends. She is just not sure about a relationship right now. I have to give her props for telling me this. She then met a guy and they started talking about the similar problems. They now talk alot. Well to make this story a little shorter. She has invited me over to talk about some bills and maybe go out to dinner. Her mom even called me and told me that she still loves me. I know I need to give her space. How should I approach this situation? I need to go over there to discuss some of the bills. Should I tell her how I feel? Or not? PLEASE HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 16, 2003 Share Posted July 16, 2003 Have dinner with her, talk about the bills, talk about the weather, talk about anything...but DON'T talk about the relationship or getting back together. That's not where she wants to go right now...can't you get that in your head. Now, when you don't bring up a lot of crap about missing her and wanting to get back together...that will drive her out of her mind and want you more. SHE will be the one who will bring it up...if you can be cool about this. Trust me!!! And when she brings it up, don't be excited. Act deliberate and tell her this is something the two of you must discuss further. If she talks about this crap about being friends, tell her that's also something you have to consider but that you're not keen on doing so given the feelings you still have for her. Tell her when those feelings disappear, no problem. There are women who will capitalize on a guys "feelings" while being his friend...favors, money, etc. It's a lead on tactic that you should never buy into. Don't be so easy!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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