doc555 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 I have been dating this girl for about 3 years. We moved in with each other. And now I have moved out. We were living with each other for about 2 years. The first year she wanted to get married and I was all excited. Then the second year she started acting different. She seemed to be getting upset and edgy and she wanted me to take the money from the ring and get it back. So I did and we were going to get help. Well, I didn't get the help she asked for. I was scared and didn't discuss the problems she was addressing. She tells her friends that she still cares about me and would love to be friends. She is just not sure about a relationship right now. I have to give her props for telling me this. She then met a guy and they started talking about the similar problems. They now talk alot. Well to make this story a little shorter. She has invited me over to talk about some bills and maybe go out to dinner. Her mom even called me and told me that she still loves me. I know I need to give her space. How should I approach this situation? I need to go over there to discuss some of the bills. Should I tell her how I feel? Or not? I am supposed to meet her on Thursday! PLEASE HELP ASAP! [color=red][/color] Link to post Share on other sites
julietverni Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Absolutely tell her how you feel, how will she ever know unless you do? But seeing as she was obviously not ready to move on at the pace you were, I would take it slow and be as delicate as possible. You don't want to scare her away any further. And don't bring it up while you're in the middle of discussing the bills. Do it after that's all out of the way. Just curious though. Why didn't you get the help she asked you to? And was this relationship help? I would think you'de be more afraid of losng her than of getting the help. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 If you we're with her for that long and thinking about mariage you shouldn't hesitate to tell her anything and you should feel comfortable telling her how you feel. Sound's like it's a break up but if you still have the support of her parents and she still loves you chances are you'll get back togeather. maby you should try dating but living apart for awhile and see how that goes marriage can be scary especially if the other person's not ready. I got married very young and it lasted 8 months maby she feels like she wasn't ready and that had something to dowith the break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author doc555 Posted July 14, 2003 Author Share Posted July 14, 2003 She has problems with other things also. I noticed her attitude changing when she started taking diet pills, which I told her to get off of. She wants to keep everything business like. She doesn't want to talk about the relationship while I am there. That is why I am scared to bring it up. It could just push her away even further. I told her I was sorry about not getting the help earlier. But she also has been stressed out at work and the diet pills I am sure are not helping. How should I approach this? Link to post Share on other sites
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