Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 You know I feel sorry for you to believe this guy.. I've seen sooo many women hurt by Cubans, Dominicans, Jamaicans.. they are all the same.. players... I'm having a fling right now with a Dominican, we talk every week... he wants to marry me.. blablabla.. the same story again.. I've heard it before.. I'm not stupid.. he's on the beach there all day, 6 days a week... having all the women he wants.. but I got my lesson from the Cuban.. 8 years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 So if I have a large one, tell you nice things, and swear you are the only for me, and especially if I ask you for money while having sex, will you be my lady? sounds pretty ridiculous, eh? If it does not, let's hook up! Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 i do believe that yes, this man at one point was seeing different women and probably even receiving money from them too. but even after all that there does come a point in people's lives that even a "gigolo" too would like to eventually find some one they can settle down with and be serious with. Even he tells me over and over that he knows I'm a good person. and I really don't believe he's a man out to scam money. Shorty, yes, possibly, even scammers and 'gigolos' settle down eventually I suppose (though maybe not). But how can you know whether one wants to settle down with you? He's a scammer, by your own admission (at least you see that). Don't you think that scammers have a special way with them, abilities to make every single person they scam feel exactly the same way: maybe I am the one? The ability to make you feel like that is how he has got away with doing this to many, many other women. Please don't send him any more money Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 yes darthvader, i've been told hubby in all honesty when i first started to see him and about the times i've helped him out financially. me and hubby have our own bank accounts so beleive me when i tell u, any financial help i do give is out of my own money and doesn't affect hubby in no way, shape or form. i do believe that yes, this man at one point was seeing different women and probably even receiving money from them too. but even after all that there does come a point in people's lives that even a "gigolo" too would like to eventually find some one they can settle down with and be serious with. i mean, he's 38 yrs old and not getting any younger. and at some point all that playing the field gets old for a man and they get to a point where they do want to settle down, and ready for commitment, agree? But don't you honestly think you deserve better? Shorty you still haven't answered exactly how you plan to 'bring him to you in the states'. Are you okay with having to live in Jamaica to be with him if you can't? You posted that even now there are still women "fighting over him" on myspace, doesn't seem he's ready to "settle" just yet, does it ? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 yes darthvader, i've been told hubby in all honesty when i first started to see him and about the times i've helped him out financially. me and hubby have our own bank accounts so beleive me when i tell u, any financial help i do give is out of my own money and doesn't affect hubby in no way, shape or form. i do believe that yes, this man at one point was seeing different women and probably even receiving money from them too. but even after all that there does come a point in people's lives that even a "gigolo" too would like to eventually find some one they can settle down with and be serious with. i mean, he's 38 yrs old and not getting any younger. and at some point all that playing the field gets old for a man and they get to a point where they do want to settle down, and ready for commitment, agree? Not neccessarly, he might continue until he's 50! Some men look good to women at 50 and 60! Why should he stop now, he's getting all kinds of money from the ladies. I'm not talking about bank accounts, I talking about debt accrued in the marriage, that's why you hear of banks going after the other spouse after the other dies. Does your husband know you had sex with this other man?! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 So if I have a large one, tell you nice things, and swear you are the only for me, and especially if I ask you for money while having sex, will you be my lady? sounds pretty ridiculous, eh? If it does not, let's hook up! Free money, Free sex, what more could a man want! Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Free money, Free sex, what more could a man want! free beer and pizza ? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Hun, you can get laid for free, you do NOT need to pay for it. BUT........ .....who are we to criticize? This is your life and you can live it however you want. It's possible that the way he uses you actually does fulfill some emotional need for you. Maybe nobody else would choose this deal....I surely wouldn't....but then again, perhaps you wouldn't choose my life either. Do you WANT people's opinions on whether this r/s is a good thing for you? Just LMK and I can oblige. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I'm interested in his business proposition.... Cars from overseas that require just "minor body work" and then can be sold for a profit, in Jamaica? Is he a savvy enough businessman to have factored in his capital costs, plus the cost of shipping vehicles to Jamaica from "overseas?" How is his business going so far? How has he planned to use the startup money you provided? It sounds like he will need tools, plus enough to ship in at least a few cars for a first production run. Where is he in that process? If you do go visit, then definitely you will get a chance to see how he has been spending your money. Somehow, however, I suspect that some time in the next few months, he will find that - surprise! - the $5k just isn't quite enough as originally planned, and the business is just this close to taking off, but he's going to need another $5k or so to get over that startup hump and get that first order rolling... me,, being the special one for him to settle down with? exactly...is that so wrong? its not impossible either. Impossible? Perhaps not. But it sounds highly, highly unlikely. ...I also believe that I am did the right thing out of the kindness of my heart. If you don't mind giving your money away out of the kindness of your heart, then more power to you. I, however, am a huge fan of being scrupulously honest with onesself. Do you really believe that he is starting an auto body business with your $5k? We'll be waiting for your report when you return from your next visit. He should have something for you to look over. Incidentally, what are the terms of your loan to him? Do you own a share in his business? Is there any kind of repayment schedule? Or do you really look at it as a "grant?" Even he tells me over and over that he knows I'm a good person. and I really don't believe he's a man out to scam money. He's just another human being in a very unfortunate poor situation that has never had a chance given to him to get ahead in life cuz of his circumstances he was born in. So if he's truly a good human being, ready to take advantage of a chance, then he'll certainly make the best of this auto-body opportunity that you've enabled him to pursue. Let us know how it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
BettyBoop Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 My boyfriend was an extremely poor student in debt when I met him too, but he never ONCE asked me for money. He did everything in his power to still be able to treat me. And now he's not poor anymore. You didn't say how old you were, are you younger or older than him? Either way, if he was going to fall in love with you...don't you think he'd been doing that already if he thought you were so awesome? You deserve so much better than a scamming player. Stop sending him money, realise it might never be...or find out the ugly truth once you're divorced. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 free beer and pizza ? HA HA! I don't drink! Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedMM Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Unbelievable. I have heard horror stories about these scams happening to lonely men before, but married women, that's new to me. Listen, IT'S A SCAM, you have been had(in more ways than one), he will bleed you dry. Oh man, there are just so many things about this that are wrong on so many levels, I could go on typing all day pointing them out. I started to, but realized my post would be longer than yours. It's all obvious though, just read your own post and pretend it's someone else. This is a twisted combination of prostitution and emotional extortion. Whatever you do, be very careful the next time you visit Jamaica. You could very easily get killed messing around with Jamaican criminals. I'm not kidding. Oh, and get tested for HIV, as it's running rampant through the entire Caribbean currently. Especially among prostitutes and promiscuous men. Incredible. There are simpler ways to commit suicide. That's exactly what this looks like to me- suicide. Bizarre suicide. Link to post Share on other sites
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