shanny Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 I'm in a relationship in which I am being treated worse then I ever have in my life. I can't stop thinking that this could have something to do with karma. I was falling out of love in my last relationship and I handled it all wrong. I cheated on him instead of just ending it. I ending up causing more pain for him in the end. He was a wonderful man, a wonderful soul and I walked all over him. I feel guilty to this day and think I always will. Now I'm being treated worse than dirt and as sad and depressed as I am I think I deserve it. Does anybody believe in karma? Or is this just a coincidence? I always hear the what goes around comes around and I think I believe it now. Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianaLima Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 I believe in karma, to the highest degree. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted March 30, 2008 Share Posted March 30, 2008 shanny, I am here to take that stick you are beating yourself with, out of your hand. STOP IT, you hear me. Karma is horsefeathers, no one gets what they deserve, it doesn't work like that. You screwed up in the past, and you know and recognise it. Cool, you have learned a lesson, you did not get sentenced to a life of misery because of one mistake. Now I will give the stick back to you, and suggest you place it somewhere about the person who is horrible to you where the sun is unlikely to shine on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Spoonandfork22 Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 im a huge believer in karma. You have already beat yourself up about this past situation with an ex, this isnt karma working against you. Karma works in a wierd way. I think when it comes to karma, at least the way I see it, is when you are doing things not feeling any guilt for your actions. i.e. stealing from a store or hitting another car with your car and then driving away without speaking to the person. You realize what you did was wrong and have already understood WHY it was wrong. This is huge. You cant anticipate that this is karma 'getting you back' although I know how you are thinking because I think the same way!! This relationship you just need to get out of and chalk it up to a bad relationship...we all have those. Dont let yourself be a victim of a loser guy!!! Everyone makes mistakes...karma isnt always out to pay you back for some mistakes you may have made = ) Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Any chance or desire to reconnect with the old boyfriend? You speak so highly of him. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 (edited) I'm in a relationship in which I am being treated worse then I ever have in my life. I can't stop thinking that this could have something to do with karma. I was falling out of love in my last relationship and I handled it all wrong. I cheated on him instead of just ending it. I ending up causing more pain for him in the end. He was a wonderful man, a wonderful soul and I walked all over him. I feel guilty to this day and think I always will. Now I'm being treated worse than dirt and as sad and depressed as I am I think I deserve it. Does anybody believe in karma? Or is this just a coincidence? I always hear the what goes around comes around and I think I believe it now. Yes, Karma does exist. See the herpes thread on this very page. Chick cheats on dude, leaves him for dude she cheated on, and wham, gets herpes. Man I bet she felt stupid. Anyways, whether or not you deserve it, you don't have to take being treated like crap. Use this experience to: learn not to cheat on people, and use it to know how it feels to be sh*t on. Oh, but please please don't use this "my current bf is treating me like crap" as an excuse to try to go back to the nice guy you cheated on. You need to leave that guy alone, too many chicks on this board don't see how harmful it is try to get back with a guy you cheated with, even if he loves you, he doesn't deserve a tainted relationship. Some people can be blinded by love or simply don't think they can find anyone else, and the people who try to get back with these people are just selfish and showing even more disrespect. If you cheat on a guy, especially a guy you claimed to love, you need to leave him the hell alone. That last sentence wasn't just directed at you either. Next time you find a good guy, don't cheat. You fall out of love? Break it off. It really isn't that difficult. Edited March 31, 2008 by Spectre Link to post Share on other sites
NeanderthalSSoldier Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I love Karma. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanny Posted March 31, 2008 Author Share Posted March 31, 2008 No, I have absolutely no intentions of trying to get the guy I cheated on back. Deep down I might want to but I caused him so much pain that I know he could never trust me again. To be honest, I truly don't deserve him and I learned my lesson about cheating. I don't know what to do with this guy. I know in my heart I have to leave but it's truly the last thing I want to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Karma rocks, especially when provided with tiny helping hands. That is all! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I don't believe in karma.. that's BS.. baloney.. crap.. Come on.. cheer up girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Why don't you let your old boyfriend decide if he wishes to bet back with you. He sounds like a terrific guy and it seems that you really value him now and know what you have lost. Get rid of this loser you are with now and call your ex boyfriend and ask him out for coffee. Tell him how you feel and what you have learned. What do you have to lose? You will be making the both of you feel so much better anyway. He deserves to see your true remorse. You would be doing a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 karma's great. i truely believe in it.what comes around goes around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanny Posted March 31, 2008 Author Share Posted March 31, 2008 The last time I heard, my ex (the one I cheated on) is dating someone. I don't know if it's serious or not, but I think I should just stay away to avoid causing him problems. I had never cheated on anyone in my life before and I have no idea why I did it with him. I think it was due to low self esteem and another guy paying a lot of attention to me. But whatever, there is no excuse. Obviously a lot of different varying opinions on karma. I always used to think it was BS, but now I wonder. Then again look at all the crappy people in the world who get everything they want. Maybe it doesn't exist. Thank you all for your opinions... I love this site! Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Again if your ex boyfriend does not want to hear from you again then he will tell you. I think he deserves to know what you have learned. I see nothing wrong in giving him one phone call. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanny Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 I think I believe in karma a little more right now. I was in a rush this morning and didn't clean up my dog's poo. I took her out later and then stepped in it. Now that's karma. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I don't believe that the universe punishes people or rewards them as a consequence for past actions. You've already experienced the consequence of cheating on your ex- That was the demise of the relationship. That was just a natural consequence directly related to how you handled the relationship. You don't deserve to be punished for the rest of your life because you made mistakes in your past. By labelling your situation as karma- you are giving up any control you have over the life that is suffocating you currently. Stop punishing yourself and take back control of your life and happiness. You have the power to affect this change. You can choose to remain in a bad relationship- or you can choose to leave and find some solace. Link to post Share on other sites
JackhammerGemma Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Sitting here with my mouth open. Your original post about cheating on your last boyfriend and wondering if karma gave you a huge bite in the a@@ could have been mine!!! My situation exactly. Nice guy, didn't deserve it, I had never done it before but did it anyway and here I am regretting I ever gave my present boyfriend my phone number...but no feasible way out it seems, now that I'm in too deep, just like you. I guess misery really does love company. Sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I think I believe in karma a little more right now. I was in a rush this morning and didn't clean up my dog's poo. I took her out later and then stepped in it. Now that's karma. nope thats Pooh Ma! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Sitting here with my mouth open. Your original post about cheating on your last boyfriend and wondering if karma gave you a huge bite in the a@@ could have been mine!!! My situation exactly. Nice guy, didn't deserve it, I had never done it before but did it anyway and here I am regretting I ever gave my present boyfriend my phone number...but no feasible way out it seems, now that I'm in too deep, just like you. I guess misery really does love company. Sigh. You're never in too deep. You always have choice. Why choose the misery when you have the power to affect change in your life. Look around you... I am sure there is a door you can find your way to. Walk out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I don't believe in remaining in an abusive relationship but then, neither do I believe in cheating. Whether you want to believe it or not, Karma has a way of evening the score. Now you've experienced it, learn a lesson from it and really take a good hard look at yourself. Look at what you've become. Take yourself apart and really, really look at what makes you who you are. It's time to dismantle yourself and get rid of the crap that causes you to be so dysfunctional. The first thing to get rid of, is your relationship. Get out. Never, ever forget the pain you've caused someone else, in your own selfishness. Never, ever forget the pain you're experiencing from someone else's selfishness. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I'm kind of on the fence about it. I kind of do believe in karma, but then again, I think alot of what can happen to people is what we bring on ourselves. I'm not saying we always deserve what we get by bringing things on ourselves, but I'm saying based on the choices WE make in our lives, thats what we bring on ourselves. If that makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
StartingOver07 Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I'm in a relationship in which I am being treated worse then I ever have in my life. I can't stop thinking that this could have something to do with karma. I was falling out of love in my last relationship and I handled it all wrong. I cheated on him instead of just ending it. I ending up causing more pain for him in the end. He was a wonderful man, a wonderful soul and I walked all over him. I feel guilty to this day and think I always will. Now I'm being treated worse than dirt and as sad and depressed as I am I think I deserve it. Does anybody believe in karma? Or is this just a coincidence? I always hear the what goes around comes around and I think I believe it now. Is this the same man you are thinking of having a child with? Acck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author shanny Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 I know I was the one who posted this, but I'm really starting to believe it. Again, I stepped in the dog poo I failed to clean up when I was in a rush for work and now... My d*ckhead boyfriend just got his car repossessed! Now this is good and bad... good because the jerk for once in his life is not getting everything that he wants, but bad because he's sorta taking it out on me. He wants the money from me but I won't give it to him. It's bad enough that he has no job and I've been supporting him. I just have to refuse to do this for him after the way he has treated me. Yes, karma does exist. I have gotten what I deserve and now so has he. Too bad he's just gonna get the money from his dad and get the car back tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Chanke4252 Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 I make my own karma, it's great fun. Sounds like you are doing the same, but in the not so fun way. Everyone experiences a bad relationship at one point or another, it is not because of your past actions. You sound like you learned from your mistake though. Link to post Share on other sites
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