Yingyang Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 (edited) Hey, I'm a 18 years old boy from Sweden. You may find me young, but I have some experiences that many people haven't. I have been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years, I met the girl online, and we stayed together for over a year before we actually touched eachother - she was from England. Anyway, my story is huge, I have experienced many problems regarding online / long distance relationships, I know how it can be, I know how much you can love someone you've never met. I know how hard it is. edit: I guess its also worth to mention that I owned an online relationship forum once, so I also got experience from other people - the forum is down now though. I didn't come here to seek advise or help, I came here to help others. I'd really like to talk with people who's going through the same thing as I did, I'd love to help you. If you're not interested, please just leave this post - but if you'd like advise, help, or just share stories then please take contact - thanks Edited April 1, 2008 by Yingyang Link to post Share on other sites
Elyssa Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 You will find there's a pretty large community here that is involved in long-distance relationships, or that has been at one point in time and are now happily married to their partners (that is my case). Tell us more about your story! -E Link to post Share on other sites
j_hunt_12 Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Hey elyssa, you actually had an LDR work? Please tell... Anyways you got my attention because my GF is actually studying in Rochester right now... or Perry actually.. And I'm in her home country studying... and I'm American.. the irony.. but anyways, wanted to say what's up... peace Link to post Share on other sites
Elyssa Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Why yes I did. My husband is from the US and I am from Spain. Long story short, we had a long-distance relationship for several years, visiting eachother every few months and eventually we got married and have been for four years now. I have talked about my relationship with him a lot in the past, so if you'd like to know more, you can search through them or also write me a PM, so we don't hijack the OP's thread -E Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yingyang Posted April 2, 2008 Author Share Posted April 2, 2008 (edited) Yes, I know some people make LDR's work, and I actually think it's great. and my story? Well, let me first say that the only reason we had to leave eachother was because of our young age, and long distance. edit: I know many people succeed in the same conditions as we went through, but due to the fact that we were only teenagers and still are, we just couldn't ruin our youth by doing this. The thing is that if you want a relationship like this to work in the long term, you need to be VERY VERY SERIOUS about it, and at this point in our lives, we couldn't live with a VERY VERY SERIOUS relationship :\ I hate to think that we'd still be together if we met later on. but I know its the truth. It's a very long story, so I will make it relatively short. Here we go: I met a girl through IRC, in a game channel. We started talking and *puff* few months later we were like salt and pepper, best friends. We talked almost every day for about 1 year. We were never more than friends though, just very good friends. Then one day we talked on ventrilo, a voice chat program, and she had shown a "Funny" picture of me to some friends of her. They didn't find it funny though, they liked me, so they asked for my msn. 2 girls added me, and I started talking with one of them first, but we were very different types, so it stopped. Then the other one started talking to me, she was single at the time, and we found the tone very fast. We talked for abit, but not too much, talked abit everyday I started to like her more and more. 2 weeks later she got a boyfriend, which didn't really bother me since we weren't that close (yet). We talked, for months, and after a while her boyfriend started being mean towards her, ignoring her, putting pics of other girls in his msn ETC. So I talked to her, and tried to make her feel better by doing funny things and stuff. Maybe a month later he dumped her, but she took it pretty well, I was there and talked to her over MSN, and told her that it was for the best concidering the way he treated her. A few weeks later we were talking and well, we had started talking dirty before she got dumped, so I knew she liked me (should maybe say that I was 16 at that time, she was 15) Anyway, after some talking she said that she was falling in love with me, and even though I always found online relationship pathetic, I couldn't deny that I was starting to get feelings for her too. We decided that we should be together, even though we couldn't meet in the nearest future, we just kept saying "One day." We met june 2006, January 2007 I bought a plane ticket. I would visit her June 2007, one year after we met. She always made it hard for me, she would send me texts like "A guy is touching me right now, it's annoying" when she was out with her friends. and she would always let all her depression out on ME. I'm not saying thats out of the ordinary, but it's ALOT harder when you hear stuff like "Our relationship is dying" over msn, and you can't actually look her into her eyes , or hold her... It's alot harder in my opinion. Fights I mean, it sucks when you can't smell, touch, or see your girl - you're so helpless. anyway, it was hard, really hard and I freaked out 1 month before we met, and ran away for 3 days. I didn't tell my parents where I went or my girl, I just went out for a 3 days long party, then I realised that I really loved her and called her to say that I don't want it to end. I could easily write a book out of it all, theres so much that happened that I just can't include here - it can't be explained with few words. Well let's get to the point. I was shaking like an old tractor when I stood there all alone on the airport, ready to fly over to England. I was scared, but it was the happiest day of my life. every second on flight was enjoyed, I knew that when I landed i'd finally see her after 1 year. I landed, stood there waiting for my baggage (That was just torture ;p) Then after about 15 minutes I could walk through the last door, she was waiting on the other side. I took a deep, deep breath and opened it. The first thing I saw was her... waiting for me. Much better for real than on cam or pictures, so so better. I couldn't smile, I was laughing... I was too happy to just smile. So was she, and I walked up to her and hugged her, I thought I'd be shy, but I had nothing to be shy of, I knew this girl better than anyone. She smelled good too. Well, I don't need to explain what happened that week, It was the best week of my life, nothing important to say here. After that I booked more flights, and visitted her atleast every 2months. Everytime I met her it felt like the first time - Kinda like meeting a big movie star or something, you've seen them so many times but never actually felt them. After we met for the first time, everything went awesome. Then, right before christmas 2008 she started the thing that would end us for good. A boy from her class had been trying to get her since like.. forever. and she decided to visit him just as a friend. They kissed, and I instantly forgave her (How could I blame her? She had been in this ****TY relationship for so long, only meeting me every 2 months) and she said she loved me more than anything. The plan was btw that I would move down there once I turned 18, so we had a plan. However, she flipped.. She couldn't take it any longer, she was feeling numb, dead, stuck, everything, and so was I. We had both felt it for so long, we stopped hanging with our friends, we did crap at school, etc.. Her parents took action, and made her leave me. They thought it was the best for both of us - which is probably true. I took it hard though, extremely hard, so did she. This happened only weeks before I was supposed to come over for a week. We talked secretly for months, but I knew it was over. Maybe I still love her, I won't tell. Maybe she still love me, she won't tell. But we both agree that If we got the chance to live within closer to eachother, we'd still be together for sure. I know she miss me, I still get emails every week. I have a new girlfriend, she has a new boyfriend... My conclusion is: This was the best relationship I've ever been in, because of her. But also possibly the worst, because of the conditions - because of the distance. So thats my story, and this is a very short version of it Edited April 2, 2008 by Yingyang Link to post Share on other sites
Miad's Princess Posted April 4, 2008 Share Posted April 4, 2008 Ying Yang. I'm sorry it didn't work out in the end. Who knows what the future will bring Link to post Share on other sites
iSmiley Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 hi Guys..Sorry to hear what happen Ying Yang.. am sure the beauty of it will always remain the memories..but like miad said..who knows what the future might bring? =] Good Luck. ^~^ Link to post Share on other sites
Eilonwy Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 That's so sad. :( Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yingyang Posted April 6, 2008 Author Share Posted April 6, 2008 yeah, thats what I love about the future no one knows what it brings :] Link to post Share on other sites
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