He lied to me and I don't have the stregth to confront him. Now what?

[littletoes]

Hi everyone. I"m really upset. I caught my lover in a lie. He basiclyy forgot that he lied to me about going to his boss is house for work 2 weeks ago he also mentiomed that he just got back from vacation and that he needs my bf to help him with some thiongs fro work. Well We were talking normally and he mentionsed that the Boss just goit back from hoildays when he told me that he got back 2 weeks prior. When I asked him I thiough u said he got back 2 weeks ago????? He turned white like a bleached white sheet. I sensed right there that he lied to me. TO be honest that day he told me hat he was going ot his bosses house he couldnt even look at me in my eye he kepted looking at his feet and my gut was telling me that he was not going to go there, NOw look what came up to the surface. Gosh. I don't know waht to do. YEs I feel like a loser. Now I know how 2 confront him. I couldnt confront him that day when he lied because family was around and I couldnt say anything to him. I felt really sick. I dont even want to look at him. Please help becase I feel im in a mess. I cant believe I really fell for a hurtfull person, I'm in disbelif

[shanny]

Why didn't you confront him right then? He knows that you know that he lied! You have to confront him. You need to find the guts in you to do it. He lied to you, maybe cheated on you and you're not going to stand up for yourself??? Come on... he knows he's caught already. Hear what he has to say. If it's BS then call him on it.

 

All I can say is that you have to do it. Nobody likes conflict, but nobody deserves to be with somethat that is lying to them. Do it, and then let me know how it goes. Again, DO IT.

[littletoes]

Why didn't you confront him right then? He knows that you know that he lied! You have to confront him. You need to find the guts in you to do it. He lied to you, maybe cheated on you and you're not going to stand up for yourself??? Come on... he knows he's caught already. Hear what he has to say. If it's BS then call him on it.

 

All I can say is that you have to do it. Nobody likes conflict, but nobody deserves to be with somethat that is lying to them. Do it, and then let me know how it goes. Again, DO IT.

 

Thanks for getting back to me. I couldnt confront him because his parents were around and I did not want to cause a scene. This is why I didint confront him. I've been feeling really down and depressed I Know I have the strength somewhere. I'm just too affraid to take the Bull by its horns. Ive been thinking about breaking up with him my hearts telling not o but my heads telling me talk to him AND SEE WHAT THE BUGGER HAS TO SAY

 

nOW IS THE RIGHT TIME TO CONFRONT HIM ABOUT THE inTERNET THING AS WELL.

[shanny]

You can do it... you deserve to know. And if he comes up with a stupid story, call him on that too. Let me know how it goes.

[littletoes]

Hello Shanny well I found the courage within me to let my parents know whats going on they also told me to confront him about the lieing and ask him whats going on. I just got home from work and I cant think its been bugging me all day and I cant concentrate it has to come out. Now hes telling me that his old boss called him and that he has to do after hours work for him which is indeed another red flag for me. I'm going to have to confront him today because this lie is eating me up inside.

 

I cant thnk i cant eat and I have this headche. I spoke with him today thats where I got the new info from him a also asked when he would be working with his boss and he said any time. ( UH huh) Sure.

 

Well today is certainly the day that I'm going to say something. I'll keep u posted and also I'm haking in my red boots of confronting him

[norajane]

The reason you are shaking in your red boots is that you know you aren't going to like his answers. There's no reason for him to lie about his whereabouts unless he has something to hide, like another woman.

 

Be prepared for him to try and lie his way out of it. And be prepared to walk away from this relationship if he does continue to lie. Life is too short to waste on people who can't be honest and trustworthy.

[littletoes]

Hey there. Yes I am ready for another one of his lies. I'm going to ask him whats up and that he should tell me whats really happening yes iM aware he may lie and now i know what he looks like when he lies to me.

 

I'm really hurt. My parents love this idiot to death. I want to confront him so bad and hes working I dont' want to do it over the phone because thats gutless.

 

I'm going to look him in the peepers. Tell him that I'm aware of that he lied and I need an explanation because I deserve one and if he tells me that he has someone else I'll tell him now u made your bed sleep in it because ure never going to find a girl like me. They don't make girls like me anymore u lost your golden wings now settle for crap.

[MimiMe]

But make sure that you stick to it! You do nothing by tellign him that and then still stay with him. If he lie to you about somehting so insignificant, then lord knows what else he can lie to you about or already has.

[littletoes]

Hi there.

 

Well I'm so stressed out I could'nt sleep last nite. I had so many opprotuniteies yesterday to confront him over the phone but something was stopping me from doing it. I really want to look him in the eye and tell him that I'm aware of his lies. I'm also going to mention that I need to find out what's up because I deserve to know. I'm fully aware of whats goingo n it's just I hate confronting people i need to do it for my own good.

 

Tonight will be the night I confront him. If not in person I have to do it over the phone. I can't take this anymore. I'm sooooooo fed up with men not being loving and disrespectfull.

[Siphon9a]

Hi there.

 

Well I'm so stressed out I could'nt sleep last nite. I had so many opprotuniteies yesterday to confront him over the phone but something was stopping me from doing it. I really want to look him in the eye and tell him that I'm aware of his lies. I'm also going to mention that I need to find out what's up because I deserve to know. I'm fully aware of whats goingo n it's just I hate confronting people i need to do it for my own good.

 

Tonight will be the night I confront him. If not in person I have to do it over the phone. I can't take this anymore. I'm sooooooo fed up with men not being loving and disrespectfull.

 

I hope you do confront him and take a stand against this kid, because we all know he is far from a man. Take it from a guy, we're all not like him. Find you someone who will respect you and the time you spend with him. You nor anyone needs this kind of stress in life. There are sooo many other things in life to stress over. It's those times you need someone you can trust to be there. This kid doesn't sound like he'd do that. The way I've always seen it is that if your in a relationship, you need to man up and grow up. It's not that hard of a thing to do and if your not happy, either work through it or go your own way. There's no need to put a person through all this drama that your suppose to care about. He sounds like a friend of mine and after I talked to him and this girl he was dating (also a friend of mine) he finally got the balls to break it off instead of stringing her along and lying and cheating, now they're both happy.

[littletoes]

Hey there I'm hurt again.

 

He was suppose to see me today and stood me up by telling me that hes so tired to come and see me. Hes now telling me that he may have to work for that boss of his this weekend. I don't want to discuss this over the telephone thats really so inmature I cant do it by phone I need to look him in th eye and tell him how I feel. If I can tell him before how i feel I can tell him again this time I'm angry and boy am I angry

 

 

I need to cool off and I'm stressed so much stress right now. I feel like hes lying to me again and god knows if he truly is going ot the bosses house considering he lied to me about it. yest still I cant talk to him about it

 

I was going to do it tonite in person though he turned me down and said hes too tired to see me.

 

 

I'm beeing played like a doll and I cant feel it I asked if hes going to see me this weekend and he said that he hopes so. Screws another stresfull sleepless nite. I really cant do it over the phone I need face to face and I'm really going to confront him about the internet as well. ( its written in my other posts. I feel helpless

[gonetildecember]

Take it from someone who's been there (you can look up my old posts if you'd like) Confront him, and do it as soon as possible. His stories sound really fishy, and nothings more indicative of trouble than your gut feeling. It will make you feel a lot better, maybe not at first, but in the end that you stood up for yourself and refused to be treated like crap and disrespected. You really want to go thru another sleepless night?

[norajane]

I was going to do it tonite in person though he turned me down and said hes too tired to see me.

So he was planning on being at home tonight and resting? You could have just driven yourself over there and talked to him, if you really needed to have it out with him tonight.

 

Make sure you see him over the weekend. If he's too tired to come see you, you go over to his place. Whatever 'work' he's doing for his 'boss', he certainly isn't going to be doing it on a Friday night.

[littletoes]

Thanks for getting back to me. I know that I need to confront this person and I cant handle all of this drama,

I felt like hurting myself last night which is not like me. I really dont have the balls to call him on it over the phone. I need to see him and I dont know if Ill be ble to see him this weekend because of his so called work purposes he told me that he wants to see me this weekend. He will let me know today whats going on with the plans of his boss.

 

I couldnt sleep that well last night. Ive been thinking about everything anyhow I will call him today and tell him thats its urgent that I see him

[gonetildecember]

Ok, what Boss randomly calls every weekend and keeps him so occupied that he does not have 10 minutes to come over and talk to you?

 

Babe, you know he's bull****ting you, just go confront him.. Can you drive to his house? or work maybe for lunch. It's just going to keep eating away at you.

[littletoes]

HI guys I feel 100 times better. I honestly shouldnt of bottled up my feeling to the point where I felt like hurting myself. It's just this internet thing is really starting to bug me and now that hes going out doing things hes never done before plus getting caught in tid bit lies and eating away at me.

 

Well I confronted him about the lie and he told me that hes not lieing to me he explained everything and to be quite frank I think I miss understood something and My mind went straight too oh crap hes messing around the reason why my mind is going there is because of the Dating site and he doesnt know that I know and thats the case I thnk I think hes up to bad things I honestyly cant confront him n that I so scared the words dont come out right. I'm being honest and I dont know what to do. He says that hes starting to get a littel fed up because I'm acting this way but Im acting like this becayse of that dating site. If need more inforamtion look at my posts I think its under online evidence. Well hes at work at this bosses house yeah its freaking bothering me and yes he has called a few times so thats ok I guess. God my parents dont know that I know he was on dating sites