matildack Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 Tonight my boyfriend dropped a huge bombshell on me. Here was our exact conversation. Him: Hey, Christine, we should talk about something Me: Hey, is something wrong? Him: In a way, but for the best Me: OK Him: I don't know if our long distance relationship is going to work out, I think it would be for the absolute best if we maybe stopped going out for now...I've been in a long distance relationship before and we ended up really liking each other, so much that we just lost interest in each other...I think that us going out like this will only, in the end, ruin our relationship. Him: Are you OK? Me: yup Him: Are you mad at me? I believe this is only for the best of our relationship Me: no I'm not Him: OK, I'm glad, I hope you can see where I'm coming from... I know this is for the better Him: Are you crying? Me: if you knew that it wasn't going to work out, then why did you go along it in the first place? He then decided to log out, and leave me with all sorts of unanswered questions, hence why I am up at two in the morning bawling my eyes out, asking for advice. It really doesn't make sense.. he shouldn't be judging OUR relationship based on what happened to him and his ex. Help and advice would be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
dancinggal Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 Doesn't sound like he can handle it. Forget him. You can't force someone to want to be in this type of relationship. I think anything can be achieved, as long as those involved are willing to do it. If he isn't, then forget it. You can find someone more worthwhile, and closer to you. Sorry for the tough love, but I think his attitude is ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 Oh, dear! Feel hugged! He behaved like a complete idiot. He dropped a bomb at you, didn't have the decency to call you at least, but dumped you online. And what is his proclaimed reason? "Let's break up, to save our relationship", uh come again. He logged off, and he didn't offer you anything, no answers, no support, nothing. Frankly, I know you're hurting, but it seems to be for the better. His behaviour speaks volumes about his charactre. Would you want to be with someone whom you can't rely on? Feel hugged, matilda. You deserve much much better! And you will find someone much better. Link to post Share on other sites
Maggs Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 If you have been together for a fair amount of time, surely he can't think ending things via an msn chat is acceptable! He either doesn't think it will really work or he's using that as an easy way out. But if he can't respect you enough to call you or try to see you in person, than it doesn't say for how much he cares for you. I'm sorry to say but just kick him to the curb! If it's meant to be, he'll come crawling back. Find someone who will have the decency to give you the respect you deserve! *hugs* Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 ...I don't know if our long distance relationship is going to work out, I think it would be for the absolute best if we maybe stopped going out for now...I've been in a long distance relationship before and we ended up really liking each other, so much that we just lost interest in each other...I think that us going out like this will only, in the end, ruin our relationship... I believe this is only for the best of our relationship Uh... Anyone got a dictionary you can loan this guy? Might help if he understood the meaning of a relationship. If you're not in one, how can anything be "for the best of it?" <shaking head> Mathildack, he was right about one thing -- no longer having a "relationship" with this guy IS for the best. Move on and find someone who at least has the decency and b@lls to be a man. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 Gotta' love meaningless soft sell and patter. It's about as useful as, "It's not you, it's me." No kidding, it's the other party... Let it die, Sweetheart. This guy isn't man enough for you. The last thing you want is someone dragging 100 lbs of baggage behind them, at all times. Link to post Share on other sites
Author matildack Posted April 6, 2008 Author Share Posted April 6, 2008 Here's what happened tonight. I logged on, curious to see if he was on, and indeed he was. First, he told me that he was not comfortable being in a long distance relationship, but THEN, he decided to switch his stories around, and tell me that he is supposedly gay, and he "truly loves men more than women". Seriously, this is just ridiculous. I'm so tired of story after story. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 How old is this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author matildack Posted April 6, 2008 Author Share Posted April 6, 2008 Fairly young... 17. I guess that's half of the problem right there:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 Ah, it all makes sense now. Why not suggest that you introduce him to a hawt gay friend of yours and see how he reacts? Okay, okay, in all seriousness, this guy isn't even close to being ready for anything short-term, nvm long-term. Just blow him off the next time he contacts you. Link to post Share on other sites
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