StartFresh Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 ..how do you take that? Particularly, from a females POV, what does it mean if the bartender (female) buys the patron (male) a round/drink. I've had this happen a couple times and always was curious. Its it a signal? Maybe they just wanted tips? Then again, this one girl is pretty attractive and I'm pretty sure she gets good tips already. Funny thing was, I was standing next to my coworker at the bar at a happy hour, another young very attractive girl who could have (to someone who didnt know) very well been my girlfriend that I was just out to the bar with. The bartender says to me "Its on me, I see you here all the time" (haha..doh!) Which I thought was ballsy because what if the girl with me wasn't my coworker but rather my girlfriend? Guess thats a non-issue though. Main point being, with all the females on this forum, what image would you be trying to convey by giving a male patron at your bar by giving him a free drink/round of drinks (had one bartender write off a whole round of shots I was buying for my friends, a $50ish purchase). Stupid, kinda immature question I guess, but I was always curious. Link to post Share on other sites
justpassingthrough Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 Guess thats a non-issue though. Main point being, with all the females on this forum, what image would you be trying to convey by giving a male patron at your bar by giving him a free drink/round of drinks (had one bartender write off a whole round of shots I was buying for my friends, a $50ish purchase). What image would I be trying to present? None whatsoever. Bars are bars and policies differ amongst them all. Some give their staff a limited tab per shift to buy customers drinks. Others have a policy about it, a free drink/round after purchasing however many of the same. It's hard to say, really. I will tell you this: unless you saw her reach into her hard earned cash supply and physically purchase the drink, you can be pretty sure the BAR bought the drink. Regardless of who's money was used in the transaction, accept it for what it certainly was: a kind gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
Milan721 Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 I will tell you this: unless you saw her reach into her hard earned cash supply and physically purchase the drink, you can be pretty sure the BAR bought the drink. Regardless of who's money was used in the transaction, accept it for what it certainly was: a kind gesture. I agree. I have a lot of female bartender friends. Of course they already get a lot of tips for being gorgeous. But it doesn't hurt to give out a few free drinks, especially if you're a regular. The funny thing is, when I saw the title of this thread, I already assumed the bartender was a guy and my initial response was going to be "he's trying to get into your pants, end of story"! Shame on me for jumping to conclusions! Although I will say that, having an ex that was a bartender, they certainly had a lot of access to willing females - and the free drinks only sweetened the deal. It's not far fetched to say she might be into you as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Ofleg7 Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 Which bars do you goto?! I'm getting me on some free drinks. Why's the psychology behind it different depending on the gender of the bartender? Next time you're there and she's working offer to buy her a drink and strike up a conversation with her. You never know, but you won't find oil if you don't dig Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 "Its on me, I see you here all the time" People aren't always simple, in what they want, when doing this. If you look at it, at face value, based on her comment, it could easily be a way to prime the pump, for the purposes of returning business/good customer reward program. It's also possible that she thinks you're attractive, at the same time, therefore, noticed you more, than other regular patrons. Why not offer to buy her a drink back, the next time you're at the bar. Tell her it's for being a great bartender and then watch her reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StartFresh Posted April 7, 2008 Author Share Posted April 7, 2008 People aren't always simple, in what they want, when doing this. If you look at it, at face value, based on her comment, it could easily be a way to prime the pump, for the purposes of returning business/good customer reward program. It's also possible that she thinks you're attractive, at the same time, therefore, noticed you more, than other regular patrons. Why not offer to buy her a drink back, the next time you're at the bar. Tell her it's for being a great bartender and then watch her reaction. I suppose I could try. I guess I give off a playboy image I'm told because I do keep myself well put together but despite that I've always been pretty shy when it comes to things like this. My friends/coworkers were all like "go get her number" blah blah but I was like "well she was probably just trying to be nice or something" but after everyone telling me that I started to wonder, hence the question. Maybe next time i'll give it a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
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